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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 192987" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Labels are helpful because you can get extra services that can help your child in the longterm. Interventions help the long-term prognosis. The child is no different than he was the day before once he or she gets labeled. He is exactly the same. However, help is usually offered, where there is no help with no label (and a simple ODD usually doesn't offer interventions). That, in my opinion, is the usefulness of a label--to get services. About nature and nurture...</p><p> While nature CAN trump nurture, the environment does matter in my opinion. My son was adopted at two, his birthmother gave him one gift: cocaine in his system. He had open heart surgery when he was an infant...who knows if it was the drug abuse. When we first got this child, he was violent, tantrummed, bit and hit. Nobody wanted to adopt him. We offered to do it because we were told "If you don't, he'll end up in an institution...and he's only 2." Our hearts couldn't let that happen. </p><p>Our son is nothing like his birthmother. He has very high functioning autism, which has improved so much that his therapist calls it a "2" on a scale of 1-10 (told you I liked your scale). He is the nicest teenager on earth. He has friends at school, but does not give into peer pressure and has never smoked, taken drugs or even drank. He is very mild tempered and at his therapist's office yesterday (he is starting to see a therapist to help him with some social issues) he said he doesn't feel sad much. "I'm medium most of the time." He follows the rules and has never been in trouble in school in his entire life.</p><p></p><p> Now, of course, he didn't live with an abusive parent, and hub and I are happily married. But that doesn't always "do it." One of our adopted kids did get into drugs (however, she turned her life around by 19). It is possible for some behaviors to be inherited, but it is in my opinion a bad idea to write off the child as "well, he's like that because of his bio. dad/bio.</p><p> mom/birthfather). He could be. Maybe he does have a disorder. If he scored mild Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), it is worth looking into to, but you'd need a neuropsychologist to diagnose it. A regular therapist (trust me on this) won't know what to look for and don't do the intensity of tests that NeuroPsychs do. </p><p>It is completely up to you if you explore further, but I personally am glad we kept looking for answers, because we finally got one and it really affected my son's life for the better. And trust me, we never thought we'd be at this place!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 192987, member: 1550"] Labels are helpful because you can get extra services that can help your child in the longterm. Interventions help the long-term prognosis. The child is no different than he was the day before once he or she gets labeled. He is exactly the same. However, help is usually offered, where there is no help with no label (and a simple ODD usually doesn't offer interventions). That, in my opinion, is the usefulness of a label--to get services. About nature and nurture... While nature CAN trump nurture, the environment does matter in my opinion. My son was adopted at two, his birthmother gave him one gift: cocaine in his system. He had open heart surgery when he was an infant...who knows if it was the drug abuse. When we first got this child, he was violent, tantrummed, bit and hit. Nobody wanted to adopt him. We offered to do it because we were told "If you don't, he'll end up in an institution...and he's only 2." Our hearts couldn't let that happen. Our son is nothing like his birthmother. He has very high functioning autism, which has improved so much that his therapist calls it a "2" on a scale of 1-10 (told you I liked your scale). He is the nicest teenager on earth. He has friends at school, but does not give into peer pressure and has never smoked, taken drugs or even drank. He is very mild tempered and at his therapist's office yesterday (he is starting to see a therapist to help him with some social issues) he said he doesn't feel sad much. "I'm medium most of the time." He follows the rules and has never been in trouble in school in his entire life. Now, of course, he didn't live with an abusive parent, and hub and I are happily married. But that doesn't always "do it." One of our adopted kids did get into drugs (however, she turned her life around by 19). It is possible for some behaviors to be inherited, but it is in my opinion a bad idea to write off the child as "well, he's like that because of his bio. dad/bio. mom/birthfather). He could be. Maybe he does have a disorder. If he scored mild Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), it is worth looking into to, but you'd need a neuropsychologist to diagnose it. A regular therapist (trust me on this) won't know what to look for and don't do the intensity of tests that NeuroPsychs do. It is completely up to you if you explore further, but I personally am glad we kept looking for answers, because we finally got one and it really affected my son's life for the better. And trust me, we never thought we'd be at this place! [/QUOTE]
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