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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 587387" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>JKF, you are hopefully sleeping now, but remember when you wake up, to take deep breaths. Your difficult child, by your own words, is "s<span style="color: #000000">leeping at the train station at night and bouncing between the day shelter, library and soup kitchen during the day" this is a kid who knows how to get around, who knows what to do out there, he is very, very resourceful. You are fearful, because you don't know the streets like these kids do, they are masters at survival and getting their needs met. My brother is schizophrenic and lived on the streets in LA for years and years. For a long time we didn't know where he was. When he surfaced, aside from needing a long shower, he was really remarkably okay. I was in awe. It's a whole culture of people, many kids who make that choice for their resistance to authority. Like your son. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">You've got everything together for your son, hopefully he will avail himself to the services, but he may not. You are the one who needs to come to grips with this, learn how to not let it ruin your life and suck up your life force. It's devastating, it's terrifying, it's so, so sad, and yet, it is what it is and you are powerless to change it. My advice to you is to stay in therapy, find a relaxation method that works for you, acupuncture, yoga, meditation, walking in the woods, whatever it is you must do it and do it often, otherwise these dramas will deplete you and take chunks of your life one bite at a time. I know that sounds harsh, and I am not trying to be, I am just showing you the reality, you did everything you could, as weird as it is, now you have to let go and have a life. He is choosing the life he wants, perhaps not from the balance point you would like, but still, it's his choice, and STILL you can't change his choice. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">Try to remember what you felt like when you were starting to lighten up again and feel good, that's the place you want to live in, not this, so as often as you can,<strong> choose that,</strong> don't go down the fear road, the worry road, send him love, say a prayer for him, release him to what you consider a higher power or spiritual force and go on with your life. You deserve that. Many hugs coming your way.............</span><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 587387, member: 13542"] JKF, you are hopefully sleeping now, but remember when you wake up, to take deep breaths. Your difficult child, by your own words, is "s[COLOR=#000000]leeping at the train station at night and bouncing between the day shelter, library and soup kitchen during the day" this is a kid who knows how to get around, who knows what to do out there, he is very, very resourceful. You are fearful, because you don't know the streets like these kids do, they are masters at survival and getting their needs met. My brother is schizophrenic and lived on the streets in LA for years and years. For a long time we didn't know where he was. When he surfaced, aside from needing a long shower, he was really remarkably okay. I was in awe. It's a whole culture of people, many kids who make that choice for their resistance to authority. Like your son. You've got everything together for your son, hopefully he will avail himself to the services, but he may not. You are the one who needs to come to grips with this, learn how to not let it ruin your life and suck up your life force. It's devastating, it's terrifying, it's so, so sad, and yet, it is what it is and you are powerless to change it. My advice to you is to stay in therapy, find a relaxation method that works for you, acupuncture, yoga, meditation, walking in the woods, whatever it is you must do it and do it often, otherwise these dramas will deplete you and take chunks of your life one bite at a time. I know that sounds harsh, and I am not trying to be, I am just showing you the reality, you did everything you could, as weird as it is, now you have to let go and have a life. He is choosing the life he wants, perhaps not from the balance point you would like, but still, it's his choice, and STILL you can't change his choice. Try to remember what you felt like when you were starting to lighten up again and feel good, that's the place you want to live in, not this, so as often as you can,[B] choose that,[/B] don't go down the fear road, the worry road, send him love, say a prayer for him, release him to what you consider a higher power or spiritual force and go on with your life. You deserve that. Many hugs coming your way.............[/COLOR][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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