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<blockquote data-quote="Wiped Out" data-source="post: 337446" data-attributes="member: 1631"><p>Thank you everyone for your replies.</p><p></p><p>Beth-I have been thinking about getting her out to some colleges. Don't know if she'll want to but I will put it out there. Unfortunately I have so few sick days left I can't take a hooky day but she and I are going to see my sister and her family for part of spring break-just a four hour drive but a chance for her and I to get away together.</p><p></p><p>Lisa-I think we do need natural consequences take over for the most part. I just hope she actually cares about the natural consequences.</p><p></p><p>ML-Thanks for the prayers and love-we need them!</p><p></p><p>Fran-Thank you-I think you are so right that she isn't fitting the typical teen mold. I think you are also right about the simple rules. She is going to have to live by the natural consequences. husband and I are worried she won't care about those consequences but at this point that will be her choice as well. Unfortunately she won't be 18 until July 2011 (I goofed in my post by writing July11). We did just start a new medication in December which seems to be kicking in to an extent. She is much more pleasant to be around and not holing on to grudges for such extreme periods (at least for the present). I agree parenting isn't us against them. We've asked her input, usually she won't give it or says one thing but does the other. </p><p></p><p>Shari-You are right it is hard but the natural consequences are going to have to be the way we go.</p><p></p><p>Heather-husband and I have let go of a lot and it is sooooooooooo hard to do. Guess there isn't much of a choice though. She and I are going away on spring break together (just the two of us) to see my sister and her family-I know she is looking forward to that.</p><p></p><p>DF-Thanks for the good thoughts. The teen years sure aren't easy.</p><p></p><p>Star-thanks-I have often wondered if easy child might have BiPolar (BP). She is so different from difficult child that if she does their two BPs look very different. That being said easy child seems like what I used to would have thought of as BiPolar (BP). She does seem to cycle (just not the rapid cycling like difficult child) up and down. In difficult child everything is so obvious, for her not so much but I haven't ruled it out.</p><p>I'm going to have hone up on my detachment skills and pull on my rhino skin with the tough love.</p><p></p><p>Janet-Thanks, it does seem so much when she has a scholarship riding on things. Unfortunately at this point we are past that she must not have wanted it to begin with even though she said she did. She will just have to do things the hard way.</p><p></p><p>Truly, I appreciate all of your responses. They are so helpful and your support mean so much. husband and I are really going to work on detaching. </p><p></p><p>Am I not detaching enough if I call her school counselor to lay it on the line for her-have a talk about her options at this point?</p><p></p><p>She is already starting to deal with natural consequences. husband called to say they would be home earlier than usual because easy child was cut from the cheer squad. Of course, she says she doesn't care because her best friend's mom pulled her off because of her grades (not as low as easy child's). </p><p></p><p>What will be really interesting is if they pull her from the out of district school she attends. They are able to do that but I don't know if they will. If so it will be another natural consequence.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wiped Out, post: 337446, member: 1631"] Thank you everyone for your replies. Beth-I have been thinking about getting her out to some colleges. Don't know if she'll want to but I will put it out there. Unfortunately I have so few sick days left I can't take a hooky day but she and I are going to see my sister and her family for part of spring break-just a four hour drive but a chance for her and I to get away together. Lisa-I think we do need natural consequences take over for the most part. I just hope she actually cares about the natural consequences. ML-Thanks for the prayers and love-we need them! Fran-Thank you-I think you are so right that she isn't fitting the typical teen mold. I think you are also right about the simple rules. She is going to have to live by the natural consequences. husband and I are worried she won't care about those consequences but at this point that will be her choice as well. Unfortunately she won't be 18 until July 2011 (I goofed in my post by writing July11). We did just start a new medication in December which seems to be kicking in to an extent. She is much more pleasant to be around and not holing on to grudges for such extreme periods (at least for the present). I agree parenting isn't us against them. We've asked her input, usually she won't give it or says one thing but does the other. Shari-You are right it is hard but the natural consequences are going to have to be the way we go. Heather-husband and I have let go of a lot and it is sooooooooooo hard to do. Guess there isn't much of a choice though. She and I are going away on spring break together (just the two of us) to see my sister and her family-I know she is looking forward to that. DF-Thanks for the good thoughts. The teen years sure aren't easy. Star-thanks-I have often wondered if easy child might have BiPolar (BP). She is so different from difficult child that if she does their two BPs look very different. That being said easy child seems like what I used to would have thought of as BiPolar (BP). She does seem to cycle (just not the rapid cycling like difficult child) up and down. In difficult child everything is so obvious, for her not so much but I haven't ruled it out. I'm going to have hone up on my detachment skills and pull on my rhino skin with the tough love. Janet-Thanks, it does seem so much when she has a scholarship riding on things. Unfortunately at this point we are past that she must not have wanted it to begin with even though she said she did. She will just have to do things the hard way. Truly, I appreciate all of your responses. They are so helpful and your support mean so much. husband and I are really going to work on detaching. Am I not detaching enough if I call her school counselor to lay it on the line for her-have a talk about her options at this point? She is already starting to deal with natural consequences. husband called to say they would be home earlier than usual because easy child was cut from the cheer squad. Of course, she says she doesn't care because her best friend's mom pulled her off because of her grades (not as low as easy child's). What will be really interesting is if they pull her from the out of district school she attends. They are able to do that but I don't know if they will. If so it will be another natural consequence. [/QUOTE]
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