meowbunny
New Member
I've posted some of the good stuff that's happened lately with my daughter, now I'll do some venting.
As I said, her sense of entitlement is still way over the top. She really does need a car. I offered to help her buy a cheap one (under $1K) for now. Nope, not good enough.
So, I took her some dealerships -- the good ones and the buy and drive ones. One recommended she open an account with a credit union, leave the funds in there for two months and then come back with a letter saying what they would be willing to give her on a loan. Having to wait two months was out of the question.
Then we hit the drive and buy (yuck!). She was not too happy -- she thought she could get something for $59/down, $59/month. They had those deals but you had to have perfect credit and a job that paid a lot more than hers did.
So, back to the CU idea. I offered to give her $1K to put in the credit union with the proviso that she was not to touch that money. "Well, what good is that if I can't touch it?" Um, it's MY money honey. I make the rules. Okay, she'll take it.
When I tell her I want the account info so I can check it on line whenever I want, she went non-linear. If that was the case, she didn't want the money. I said fine -- go close the account. Believe it or not, she did! roflao Of course, a bit later she asked if she could have the funds so that she could ultimately get her car. I was nice and gave her the money. Now, I just have to pray that she'll keep her word and not touch the funds.
Her sense of what she deserves really is incredible at times. I do understand that most kids have little sense of money, but she takes it to extremes and then gets really angry at me because I won't bail her out.
Right now, she is wondering how she will pay her share of the rent. She hinted quite a bit about that. I kept silent and totally ignored her or patted her hand and told her I was sure she would find a way to pay it.
As I said, her sense of entitlement is still way over the top. She really does need a car. I offered to help her buy a cheap one (under $1K) for now. Nope, not good enough.
So, I took her some dealerships -- the good ones and the buy and drive ones. One recommended she open an account with a credit union, leave the funds in there for two months and then come back with a letter saying what they would be willing to give her on a loan. Having to wait two months was out of the question.
Then we hit the drive and buy (yuck!). She was not too happy -- she thought she could get something for $59/down, $59/month. They had those deals but you had to have perfect credit and a job that paid a lot more than hers did.
So, back to the CU idea. I offered to give her $1K to put in the credit union with the proviso that she was not to touch that money. "Well, what good is that if I can't touch it?" Um, it's MY money honey. I make the rules. Okay, she'll take it.
When I tell her I want the account info so I can check it on line whenever I want, she went non-linear. If that was the case, she didn't want the money. I said fine -- go close the account. Believe it or not, she did! roflao Of course, a bit later she asked if she could have the funds so that she could ultimately get her car. I was nice and gave her the money. Now, I just have to pray that she'll keep her word and not touch the funds.
Her sense of what she deserves really is incredible at times. I do understand that most kids have little sense of money, but she takes it to extremes and then gets really angry at me because I won't bail her out.
Right now, she is wondering how she will pay her share of the rent. She hinted quite a bit about that. I kept silent and totally ignored her or patted her hand and told her I was sure she would find a way to pay it.
