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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 678539" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Actually the temperament and intelligence of my own son are very like my own.</p><p></p><p>I think the way we have butted heads in this last decade is very like what would have likely occurred with any birth child I would have had. I do not think the vulnerabilities and gifts of my son have been solely determined by his genetic heritage. I have always believed that nurture trumps nature. If nature dominated and won out there would have been no advancement in human history, which of course there was. Human creativity triumphs. </p><p></p><p>While I know that that is an uncommon view here on CD, I believe it still. I believe my son has vulnerabilities linked to my being a single, working parent, without family support. I believe his vulnerabilities have as much or more to do with the orphanage, as with his heredity and drug exposure.</p><p></p><p>I think it is still out to the jury, what he and any one of us will attain and achieve in the rest of the time that each of us has left. I believe that still, there is choice involved, and opportunity. That magical mixture of how we choose to respond to our environment at any given moment.</p><p></p><p>What has changed for me is the lessening of fear, and the growing of hope. For my son and for myself. I attribute this almost entirely to these past couple of years, my grieving for my mother and my life and our and my work here on FOO and CD.</p><p></p><p>I feel entirely more sure-footed and confident than when I began, and indeed, that at any other time in my life that I can remember. I had confidence before, I had fearlessness, maybe, but I cannot remember feeling sure-footed. I believe this has to do with a self-knowledge that I have gained, and a sense of personal acceptance and acceptance of what it is to be a parent, and a human being. This is what has changed.</p><p></p><p>I attribute this one hundred percent to the courage and generosity of the parents here to tell the truth about their lives, themselves, their hopes, fears and dreams. And to allow me to do the same. This allowed me to make sense of things, playing with a full deck. Because every one of you showed your cards, and play a honest and fair game.</p><p></p><p>Thank you. I have said it before a hundred times. I will never be able to put into words the depth of my gratitude.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 678539, member: 18958"] Actually the temperament and intelligence of my own son are very like my own. I think the way we have butted heads in this last decade is very like what would have likely occurred with any birth child I would have had. I do not think the vulnerabilities and gifts of my son have been solely determined by his genetic heritage. I have always believed that nurture trumps nature. If nature dominated and won out there would have been no advancement in human history, which of course there was. Human creativity triumphs. While I know that that is an uncommon view here on CD, I believe it still. I believe my son has vulnerabilities linked to my being a single, working parent, without family support. I believe his vulnerabilities have as much or more to do with the orphanage, as with his heredity and drug exposure. I think it is still out to the jury, what he and any one of us will attain and achieve in the rest of the time that each of us has left. I believe that still, there is choice involved, and opportunity. That magical mixture of how we choose to respond to our environment at any given moment. What has changed for me is the lessening of fear, and the growing of hope. For my son and for myself. I attribute this almost entirely to these past couple of years, my grieving for my mother and my life and our and my work here on FOO and CD. I feel entirely more sure-footed and confident than when I began, and indeed, that at any other time in my life that I can remember. I had confidence before, I had fearlessness, maybe, but I cannot remember feeling sure-footed. I believe this has to do with a self-knowledge that I have gained, and a sense of personal acceptance and acceptance of what it is to be a parent, and a human being. This is what has changed. I attribute this one hundred percent to the courage and generosity of the parents here to tell the truth about their lives, themselves, their hopes, fears and dreams. And to allow me to do the same. This allowed me to make sense of things, playing with a full deck. Because every one of you showed your cards, and play a honest and fair game. Thank you. I have said it before a hundred times. I will never be able to put into words the depth of my gratitude. Thank you. COPA [/QUOTE]
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