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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 678565" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>Wow, rough day at work, but this is what I think.</p><p></p><p>First of all, by having SSI, some young adults do not have as much drive or incentive to finish college or find a good-paying career. They receive money each month already.</p><p></p><p>Secondly, SSI is set up to decrease if the person gets a part time job. They give you less because they figure that you have income. The more you earn, the less you receive.</p><p></p><p>Thirdly, you cannot have over a certain amount in the bank at a given time. If you have over the amount, then they also give you less each month.</p><p></p><p>Not great incentive. In fact, the opposite usually occurs. They do not work or work very sporadically.</p><p></p><p>Yes, he needs the help and deserves the SSI payment, but he does not feel the same urgency that you might feel about his future goals.</p><p></p><p>Often you receive enough to pay for a room in a house, with some left over for food, some utilities, and incidentals. One usually does not receive enough to rent a studio or a 1 room apartment. The owner also needs to see proof that you have a stable job or income that will permit you to be able to pay the monthly rent on time. In addition, they often want references from places that you have rented previously.</p><p></p><p>No, you should not rent him an apartment or share a lease by putting your name on it, as well. Besides being responsible for the rent, even if he skipped, but for any damages incurred. Also, to get the best monthly rate, you have to sign up for 1 or 2 years. Don't do it.</p><p></p><p>I could not do it because my son was delusional and, I have been told by many therapists , could have hurt or even killed someone at a rented apartment or room. He could have a delusion about someone and his voices could have commanded him to hurt them. </p><p></p><p>My brother's exgirlfriend had her door at a fancy gated apartment in Brentwood chopped down by an axe. Luckily, she was gone. The young man who lived above her had schitzophrenic delusions that she was his exgirlfriend. He had pictures of her all over his wall. His father, qn attorney, had leased it out for him. Copa, this scenario does not apply to your son.</p><p></p><p>Your son could damage property or let someone else live there who could cause damage. He might not keep it up properly. You would be responsible.</p><p></p><p>Also, his conspiracy theories could prevent him from reaching his career goals. At the very least, they could overshadow true goals that he needs to attend to to get a job.</p><p></p><p>I have read a lot of studies on marijuana and delusions, specifically schitzophrenia. A large percentage of schizophrenics smoke marijuana. They do not know if it perhaps brings on delusions or paranoia. Or, that you want it once you start prenomal schitzophrenia. It seems to exacerbate the paranoia. Chicken... or the egg concept.</p><p></p><p>When my son ran off 10 years ago to sleep in his car up North for a year, he was on marijuana. He was smoking it for awhile, unbeknownst to me. I found it in his room after he had fled. I am just throwing this out there.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I have seen some parents agree to match any earnings from a job. I do not know how that would work with SSI and I do not know how you could monitor its proper use or perhaps direct payment for rent. It would make you too involved and responsible. He also could still expect the money even after he quits hIs job or is fired. Forget that idea, entirely.</p><p></p><p>They have low rent housing out there with long wait lines. Does your son agree that he has a disability or mental health issue? If not, he might not apply.</p><p></p><p>Copa, you are doing everything right. He knows that you love him and want him to be the best that he can be in life. You are giving him strong guidelines and expectations. You are showing him respect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 678565, member: 19245"] Wow, rough day at work, but this is what I think. First of all, by having SSI, some young adults do not have as much drive or incentive to finish college or find a good-paying career. They receive money each month already. Secondly, SSI is set up to decrease if the person gets a part time job. They give you less because they figure that you have income. The more you earn, the less you receive. Thirdly, you cannot have over a certain amount in the bank at a given time. If you have over the amount, then they also give you less each month. Not great incentive. In fact, the opposite usually occurs. They do not work or work very sporadically. Yes, he needs the help and deserves the SSI payment, but he does not feel the same urgency that you might feel about his future goals. Often you receive enough to pay for a room in a house, with some left over for food, some utilities, and incidentals. One usually does not receive enough to rent a studio or a 1 room apartment. The owner also needs to see proof that you have a stable job or income that will permit you to be able to pay the monthly rent on time. In addition, they often want references from places that you have rented previously. No, you should not rent him an apartment or share a lease by putting your name on it, as well. Besides being responsible for the rent, even if he skipped, but for any damages incurred. Also, to get the best monthly rate, you have to sign up for 1 or 2 years. Don't do it. I could not do it because my son was delusional and, I have been told by many therapists , could have hurt or even killed someone at a rented apartment or room. He could have a delusion about someone and his voices could have commanded him to hurt them. My brother's exgirlfriend had her door at a fancy gated apartment in Brentwood chopped down by an axe. Luckily, she was gone. The young man who lived above her had schitzophrenic delusions that she was his exgirlfriend. He had pictures of her all over his wall. His father, qn attorney, had leased it out for him. Copa, this scenario does not apply to your son. Your son could damage property or let someone else live there who could cause damage. He might not keep it up properly. You would be responsible. Also, his conspiracy theories could prevent him from reaching his career goals. At the very least, they could overshadow true goals that he needs to attend to to get a job. I have read a lot of studies on marijuana and delusions, specifically schitzophrenia. A large percentage of schizophrenics smoke marijuana. They do not know if it perhaps brings on delusions or paranoia. Or, that you want it once you start prenomal schitzophrenia. It seems to exacerbate the paranoia. Chicken... or the egg concept. When my son ran off 10 years ago to sleep in his car up North for a year, he was on marijuana. He was smoking it for awhile, unbeknownst to me. I found it in his room after he had fled. I am just throwing this out there. I have seen some parents agree to match any earnings from a job. I do not know how that would work with SSI and I do not know how you could monitor its proper use or perhaps direct payment for rent. It would make you too involved and responsible. He also could still expect the money even after he quits hIs job or is fired. Forget that idea, entirely. They have low rent housing out there with long wait lines. Does your son agree that he has a disability or mental health issue? If not, he might not apply. Copa, you are doing everything right. He knows that you love him and want him to be the best that he can be in life. You are giving him strong guidelines and expectations. You are showing him respect. [/QUOTE]
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