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Now I know where the difficult child strain in my family came from
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 594750" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Someone is gonna throw stones at me....................I just know it. But let's be practical here. </p><p></p><p>Your mom is 98 yrs old and has cancer. Does she <strong>want</strong> to live to be over a hundred?? If you don't see that burning desire there for life in general..........then don't nag the poor woman. She may be 98 but she is still a grown woman and knows when she is hungry ect. Try to make appealing meals that she really likes, otherwise, personally I'd just plain give her the opportunity to <strong>enjoy</strong> what time she has left as best she can. </p><p></p><p>I know you're doing your utter best to look out for her welfare. I've no doubt about that. But often when a family member grows to extreme old age and has senility issues we tend to forget they are grown ups capable of knowing what they want. The senility might complicate that a bit and make it so they can no longer live independently.........but do you get what I'm saying? </p><p></p><p>She is going to lose weight with the cancer. I'm guessing she is in treatment......but even without treatment she would lose weight with the cancer most likely. Her appetite probably isn't that great, so by trying to cook things she truly enjoys eating.......it might encourage her to try a few extra bites. But honestly most people her age don't eat enough to feed a bird even completely well. Chewing can be tiring, food can start to taste sort of blah.........and if she is on pain medications and it's causing constipation........well, that can make you feel full even if you're not. </p><p></p><p>The hamburger in the toilet was your sign you're pushing too much with the eating. I'm sure you don't want your mom to feel so pressured to eat that she sneaks to discard food. </p><p></p><p>During mother in law's last months she only ate a small amount of soup and a sandwich. That was a big meal for her if she could eat it all. She never ate breakfast and often skipped dinner completely as the food laid on her stomach like a rock.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 594750, member: 84"] Someone is gonna throw stones at me....................I just know it. But let's be practical here. Your mom is 98 yrs old and has cancer. Does she [B]want[/B] to live to be over a hundred?? If you don't see that burning desire there for life in general..........then don't nag the poor woman. She may be 98 but she is still a grown woman and knows when she is hungry ect. Try to make appealing meals that she really likes, otherwise, personally I'd just plain give her the opportunity to [B]enjoy[/B] what time she has left as best she can. I know you're doing your utter best to look out for her welfare. I've no doubt about that. But often when a family member grows to extreme old age and has senility issues we tend to forget they are grown ups capable of knowing what they want. The senility might complicate that a bit and make it so they can no longer live independently.........but do you get what I'm saying? She is going to lose weight with the cancer. I'm guessing she is in treatment......but even without treatment she would lose weight with the cancer most likely. Her appetite probably isn't that great, so by trying to cook things she truly enjoys eating.......it might encourage her to try a few extra bites. But honestly most people her age don't eat enough to feed a bird even completely well. Chewing can be tiring, food can start to taste sort of blah.........and if she is on pain medications and it's causing constipation........well, that can make you feel full even if you're not. The hamburger in the toilet was your sign you're pushing too much with the eating. I'm sure you don't want your mom to feel so pressured to eat that she sneaks to discard food. During mother in law's last months she only ate a small amount of soup and a sandwich. That was a big meal for her if she could eat it all. She never ate breakfast and often skipped dinner completely as the food laid on her stomach like a rock. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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