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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 137987"><p>Witz - I learned long ago that 'clean the kitchen' was way too vague for difficult child. Instead, I tell her to load the dishwasher then come check with me. Then I tell her the next task. She's to the age now that I can write out what 'clean the kitchen' means and she'll check things off as she does them. She couldn't do it without the list, though. At least with having her come check with me, I'm not following her around and interrupting what I'm doing. It also cut down on my frustration - hers as well.</p><p></p><p>Another idea that we've used is to put a chores on a slip of paper and have a drawing. Set a time for 5 or 10 minutes. Everyone draws a chore and works on it until the timer goes off. If the chore is completed when the timer goes off, the slip of paper is thrown away. Otherwise, it is recycled into the drawing and we all draw again. It makes it more like a game and no one is stuck doing any one task for too long.</p><p></p><p>And while that's great for kids, I really have no good advice on how to motivate husband. I quit doing for mine when I was married. For example, if his clothes weren't in the hamper, they didn't get washed (on the floor in front of the hamper didn't count as 'in' the hamper, either). Instead of him getting his clothes into the hamper, he just started doing his own laundry. I didn't mind having less laundry to do, but it didn't solve the initial problem which was the laundry strewn around the house either. He didn't care how it affected me...how hard I worked to keep the house up and he'd destroy it in an hour. Literally. There were a host of other issues with him, but even if there hadn't been that issue alone would have eventually pushed me to divorce.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 137987"] Witz - I learned long ago that 'clean the kitchen' was way too vague for difficult child. Instead, I tell her to load the dishwasher then come check with me. Then I tell her the next task. She's to the age now that I can write out what 'clean the kitchen' means and she'll check things off as she does them. She couldn't do it without the list, though. At least with having her come check with me, I'm not following her around and interrupting what I'm doing. It also cut down on my frustration - hers as well. Another idea that we've used is to put a chores on a slip of paper and have a drawing. Set a time for 5 or 10 minutes. Everyone draws a chore and works on it until the timer goes off. If the chore is completed when the timer goes off, the slip of paper is thrown away. Otherwise, it is recycled into the drawing and we all draw again. It makes it more like a game and no one is stuck doing any one task for too long. And while that's great for kids, I really have no good advice on how to motivate husband. I quit doing for mine when I was married. For example, if his clothes weren't in the hamper, they didn't get washed (on the floor in front of the hamper didn't count as 'in' the hamper, either). Instead of him getting his clothes into the hamper, he just started doing his own laundry. I didn't mind having less laundry to do, but it didn't solve the initial problem which was the laundry strewn around the house either. He didn't care how it affected me...how hard I worked to keep the house up and he'd destroy it in an hour. Literally. There were a host of other issues with him, but even if there hadn't been that issue alone would have eventually pushed me to divorce. [/QUOTE]
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