Our 19 year old son moved out last summer. He attended his first year of college and passed, mainly electives. He started smoking pot and now hash and I'm not sure what more. He moved out when we set the boundary that he could not smoke in our home. We have alto under child as well. The arguments and fighting escalated and finally took my threat and moved out. It shocked me and scared me to death. I felt horrible. However, he has an apartment with several people I don't know and continues to work. We pay his cell, health, car insurance. His car has not run for 6 months and he has borrowed money to "fix" it and it is still not fixed. We just towed it back to our home to repair it and sell it. He is buying a $1000 car from a friend he will make payments on. He has asked if we will pay the coverage. He only calls when he needs something and never comes around. We have asked for him to come visit or go to lunch but something always comes up with him. Through social media I see he is still using and I am confident it is more than pot. I am uncomfortable paying his car insurance knowing he will be driving under the influence and I am done paying for cell phones to post videos of his smoking pot. I feel like I have lost him.