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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 711238" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>People get out of abusive relationships from men they are afraid of every day. Nobody can talk her into leaving. She has your support and there are domestic abuse shelters to shield her. Maybe she isn't ready to leave. It isn't like she is alone in this.</p><p></p><p>Some people stay in abusive relationships for many reasons and many had options for leaving. He sounds like a typical abuser and she is an easy victim. I'm sure you would love to rush over there and rescue her. Would she go home with you? If not, that is on her.</p><p></p><p>As much as we love our grown kids, we have no authority legally to make them live happier lives. It is all on them.</p><p></p><p>Maybe abusive man would find your daughter less appealing if you never gave them money. I don't know if you contribute to their household, but if you do, I'd stop.</p><p></p><p>One thing you can talk to your daughter about is getting a birth control shot, even if you have to sneak and pay for it. This I would do. If she has his baby, she will be tied to this jerk forever. You can't force her to do it, but it would be a generous, loving offer on your part. A child of his would be a pawn and it is very hard to be able to keep a father from his baby. The bar is high and many states are automatically 50/50 unless one can PROVE that father is abusive to baby. Being mean to your daughter doesn't matter... if he isn't caught abusing his kid. Do talk about birth control.</p><p>The days of mothers having the most custody with men just paying child support and only seeing his child every other weekend are gone. He may have more money for a good lawyer. Instill in her how bad it would be for her to have his baby then it is her decision. She is old enough to understand, even at eighteen.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 711238, member: 1550"] People get out of abusive relationships from men they are afraid of every day. Nobody can talk her into leaving. She has your support and there are domestic abuse shelters to shield her. Maybe she isn't ready to leave. It isn't like she is alone in this. Some people stay in abusive relationships for many reasons and many had options for leaving. He sounds like a typical abuser and she is an easy victim. I'm sure you would love to rush over there and rescue her. Would she go home with you? If not, that is on her. As much as we love our grown kids, we have no authority legally to make them live happier lives. It is all on them. Maybe abusive man would find your daughter less appealing if you never gave them money. I don't know if you contribute to their household, but if you do, I'd stop. One thing you can talk to your daughter about is getting a birth control shot, even if you have to sneak and pay for it. This I would do. If she has his baby, she will be tied to this jerk forever. You can't force her to do it, but it would be a generous, loving offer on your part. A child of his would be a pawn and it is very hard to be able to keep a father from his baby. The bar is high and many states are automatically 50/50 unless one can PROVE that father is abusive to baby. Being mean to your daughter doesn't matter... if he isn't caught abusing his kid. Do talk about birth control. The days of mothers having the most custody with men just paying child support and only seeing his child every other weekend are gone. He may have more money for a good lawyer. Instill in her how bad it would be for her to have his baby then it is her decision. She is old enough to understand, even at eighteen. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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