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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 711384" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You are right. The adult kids who bring us here tend to make puzzling, self defeating and poor choices. It does not help them learn or grow up to bail them out as they reach their 20s and older.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is looking for sympathy and money without changing her circumstances or asking for psychiatric help. I can only share what worked for my kids...they faced their own bad choices with no money from us and they both got their lives together financially. One still has a difficult personality, but he has a great job, house, car etc. The other is doing great all around.</p><p></p><p> I feel as if saving them hurts them, even though it is hard to deny them. I still feel it is the only way they may decide to make serious change. Its no guarantee, but it is motivation. Some people will not change no matter what you do. Should we give them all our money, our health and our very life to see if bailing them out will help? Time and time again? You matter too.</p><p></p><p>She will survive with bad credit. If she becomes responsible, she can build it up. If she doesnt, her credit would probably have been bad anyway.</p><p></p><p>I know this is hard. All of us have dealt with difficult adult children and we feel for you. Sending light and love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 711384, member: 1550"] You are right. The adult kids who bring us here tend to make puzzling, self defeating and poor choices. It does not help them learn or grow up to bail them out as they reach their 20s and older. Your daughter is looking for sympathy and money without changing her circumstances or asking for psychiatric help. I can only share what worked for my kids...they faced their own bad choices with no money from us and they both got their lives together financially. One still has a difficult personality, but he has a great job, house, car etc. The other is doing great all around. I feel as if saving them hurts them, even though it is hard to deny them. I still feel it is the only way they may decide to make serious change. Its no guarantee, but it is motivation. Some people will not change no matter what you do. Should we give them all our money, our health and our very life to see if bailing them out will help? Time and time again? You matter too. She will survive with bad credit. If she becomes responsible, she can build it up. If she doesnt, her credit would probably have been bad anyway. I know this is hard. All of us have dealt with difficult adult children and we feel for you. Sending light and love. [/QUOTE]
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