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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="Cindy Marie" data-source="post: 711810" data-attributes="member: 21540"><p>For those that have read my entire thread might remember about the phone situation(his mother activated a new number through her carrier on the phone my husband and I pay for which was still under contract through Verizon) She did know better but these people never thought to ask whose account nor did the new carrier get authorization from my husband to activate and transfer service as Verizon had no records of the new carrier contacting them. I had been on the phone numerous times but out of fear for her, I did not proceed with filing fraud with the other carrier per Verizon- In fact the contract is up in a few days and when I had previously spoken to the domestic violence agency, they did instruct me to make sure she had a phone in our name. Well, I did decide to purchase her a new phone. She apparently explained to him that "our" existing phone(she kept the same phone-) was unethically handled and that she was going to get a new phone. He told her that was a lie and that if she got a new phone, she would have to go back home. Well she has not used the new phone yet out of fear of him. My daughter also texted my other daughter and her friend that he said I was toxic and that I am making her choose between us and him. </p><p></p><p>She says she has talked to him about this car being unaffordable-after the fact-but he refuses to do anything such as sell it or help with payments as he told her that is what life is all about-"struggling" and that she has an excuse for everything. He also said that was "their" car together and he was not getting rid of it. She asked me why does he say "our" car--I told her because he is controlling her. This is why she has to take him to work and pick him up--not because of saving gas. What did he do before this car came along?? He told her she could get on our insurance since it would be less but she said she informed him that we would never do such as long as he is involved and on the car and drives it. And yes, there were actually several days the week before that he took her car for "gas" and left her at his house without being able to leave. She said his mother told her she needed to tell him not to leave her without transportation. My daughter should not have had to tell him anything as he should have never taken the car as he has his own but we all know why. I told her to leave the keys and when she is ready,let us know to help her out of there. </p><p></p><p>When she left Thursday, she once again wrote at 5:25 I'm moving back in with you." and repeated it at 5:34, I.m moving back in with you." I still never responded to this as I honestly did not know what to say nor did I believe it. I know in my heart she wants to but I know it isn't going to be that easy. She has been telling my other daughter this too and my other daughter took a screenshot of her message and sent to me. She also took a screenshot that my daughter wrote saying " I just hate seeing mom crying over this, it makes me so upset like she doesn't have much and the only thing she has is us and I am just destroying her." </p><p></p><p>But at 9:08 that same evening, " I don't I just can't get out of it, like I'll get killed. Help me, I am afraid, I just need your help. That's all mom, I'll get out of it for you, Please tell me how to do this. I don't enjoy this I'm just scared to get out. I love you more than life and will do anything for you. You're my mother, You mean the world to me and I am not just saying this, I mean it. I love you, please text me when you wake up."</p><p></p><p>I know this was lengthy but this is from this week alone. Again, we know with her age, I am limited as to what I can do. However, this is the most she has opened up to me since she left. Any suggestions as to what the next steps should be if we can get her to say "I'm ready." Because this man is not going away easy and as much as I am trying to live my life, knowing she is in fear and knowing we are not only in fear for our daughter, but for ourselves as he despises us, I want to be as prepared and knowledgeable as I can possibly be. Obviously, I don't know what the next minute brings nor do I know that it will go as planned but I have never been through such in my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Cindy Marie, post: 711810, member: 21540"] For those that have read my entire thread might remember about the phone situation(his mother activated a new number through her carrier on the phone my husband and I pay for which was still under contract through Verizon) She did know better but these people never thought to ask whose account nor did the new carrier get authorization from my husband to activate and transfer service as Verizon had no records of the new carrier contacting them. I had been on the phone numerous times but out of fear for her, I did not proceed with filing fraud with the other carrier per Verizon- In fact the contract is up in a few days and when I had previously spoken to the domestic violence agency, they did instruct me to make sure she had a phone in our name. Well, I did decide to purchase her a new phone. She apparently explained to him that "our" existing phone(she kept the same phone-) was unethically handled and that she was going to get a new phone. He told her that was a lie and that if she got a new phone, she would have to go back home. Well she has not used the new phone yet out of fear of him. My daughter also texted my other daughter and her friend that he said I was toxic and that I am making her choose between us and him. She says she has talked to him about this car being unaffordable-after the fact-but he refuses to do anything such as sell it or help with payments as he told her that is what life is all about-"struggling" and that she has an excuse for everything. He also said that was "their" car together and he was not getting rid of it. She asked me why does he say "our" car--I told her because he is controlling her. This is why she has to take him to work and pick him up--not because of saving gas. What did he do before this car came along?? He told her she could get on our insurance since it would be less but she said she informed him that we would never do such as long as he is involved and on the car and drives it. And yes, there were actually several days the week before that he took her car for "gas" and left her at his house without being able to leave. She said his mother told her she needed to tell him not to leave her without transportation. My daughter should not have had to tell him anything as he should have never taken the car as he has his own but we all know why. I told her to leave the keys and when she is ready,let us know to help her out of there. When she left Thursday, she once again wrote at 5:25 I'm moving back in with you." and repeated it at 5:34, I.m moving back in with you." I still never responded to this as I honestly did not know what to say nor did I believe it. I know in my heart she wants to but I know it isn't going to be that easy. She has been telling my other daughter this too and my other daughter took a screenshot of her message and sent to me. She also took a screenshot that my daughter wrote saying " I just hate seeing mom crying over this, it makes me so upset like she doesn't have much and the only thing she has is us and I am just destroying her." But at 9:08 that same evening, " I don't I just can't get out of it, like I'll get killed. Help me, I am afraid, I just need your help. That's all mom, I'll get out of it for you, Please tell me how to do this. I don't enjoy this I'm just scared to get out. I love you more than life and will do anything for you. You're my mother, You mean the world to me and I am not just saying this, I mean it. I love you, please text me when you wake up." I know this was lengthy but this is from this week alone. Again, we know with her age, I am limited as to what I can do. However, this is the most she has opened up to me since she left. Any suggestions as to what the next steps should be if we can get her to say "I'm ready." Because this man is not going away easy and as much as I am trying to live my life, knowing she is in fear and knowing we are not only in fear for our daughter, but for ourselves as he despises us, I want to be as prepared and knowledgeable as I can possibly be. Obviously, I don't know what the next minute brings nor do I know that it will go as planned but I have never been through such in my life. [/QUOTE]
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