Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Now what do I do??? :(
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 384781"><p>Sorry - should give some history:</p><p> </p><p>difficult child was using meth and was going through this cycle of getting high and disappearing for days then coming home and crashing for days. She took off again and we told her she was not coming back into our house until she went for treatment. She was strung out and desperate and agreed. I picked her up from a big foreclosed house that was crawling with homeless teens and she was pale as a ghost and looked like death. I took her home, she ate and passed out and in the morning we left for what I thought was a long term rehab program. Turned out to be an acute care facility and she was released two days later. When they called to tell me they were discharging her (they told me it was because she didn't want to be there, she claimed she didn't have a problem, etc.) I was panicked and asked my mom if difficult child could come back there because I knew if she came home she would be right back in the routine again. My mom said absolutely, so I picked up difficult child from the acute care facility and put her on a plane to my mom's. </p><p> </p><p>Now I get complaints from my mom all the time. And yes, they are petty. VERY petty. And I don't know what to do. I talked to my brother (ex addict clean for three years now), and he told me that I am an enabler and the worst thing I could possibly do for my daughter was to bring her back home. But if my mother can't deal with her, then what? I feel bad putting this all on my mom. I certainly didn't want her life to be miserable. She was so happy when difficult child was there last time. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p> </p><p>UPDATE: Just got a text from difficult child saying she has been thinking and she has decided she does not need drugs. She says drugs are a mountain in her life and she commands them to leave. </p><p> </p><p>I told her that is fantastic!!!! Now she just needs to complete a program to learn the tools for a clean life. Her response - all she needs is God and he is already in her, she just has to accept him as her Savior. </p><p> </p><p>I told her she needs a program, too, and if she is just saying this to come back home, it will not work. She will not live in my home until she has received treatment and is ready to turn her life around. If she is really serious, my brother will be there in a heartbeat to bring her to where she needs to go. If she is not willing to do the program, she is only saying this to get back in the house.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 384781"] Sorry - should give some history: difficult child was using meth and was going through this cycle of getting high and disappearing for days then coming home and crashing for days. She took off again and we told her she was not coming back into our house until she went for treatment. She was strung out and desperate and agreed. I picked her up from a big foreclosed house that was crawling with homeless teens and she was pale as a ghost and looked like death. I took her home, she ate and passed out and in the morning we left for what I thought was a long term rehab program. Turned out to be an acute care facility and she was released two days later. When they called to tell me they were discharging her (they told me it was because she didn't want to be there, she claimed she didn't have a problem, etc.) I was panicked and asked my mom if difficult child could come back there because I knew if she came home she would be right back in the routine again. My mom said absolutely, so I picked up difficult child from the acute care facility and put her on a plane to my mom's. Now I get complaints from my mom all the time. And yes, they are petty. VERY petty. And I don't know what to do. I talked to my brother (ex addict clean for three years now), and he told me that I am an enabler and the worst thing I could possibly do for my daughter was to bring her back home. But if my mother can't deal with her, then what? I feel bad putting this all on my mom. I certainly didn't want her life to be miserable. She was so happy when difficult child was there last time. :( UPDATE: Just got a text from difficult child saying she has been thinking and she has decided she does not need drugs. She says drugs are a mountain in her life and she commands them to leave. I told her that is fantastic!!!! Now she just needs to complete a program to learn the tools for a clean life. Her response - all she needs is God and he is already in her, she just has to accept him as her Savior. I told her she needs a program, too, and if she is just saying this to come back home, it will not work. She will not live in my home until she has received treatment and is ready to turn her life around. If she is really serious, my brother will be there in a heartbeat to bring her to where she needs to go. If she is not willing to do the program, she is only saying this to get back in the house. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Now what do I do??? :(
Top