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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 561569" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I've always tried to operate under the assumption that "no news is good news" when it comes to my difficult children. At least, as far as something bad happening to them. I always figure if something did happen, I'd find out. Of all the times I've worried about no contact, it's been wasted worry 100% of the time. *100%*. And believe me, they're not worried about us. This is another difficult detachment lesson .... if we want them to be independent and for things to change, we have to learn how not to worry when they stop calling us. It's what we wanted, right? For the harassment to stop? Such a dichotomy: hating the harassing calls, but worrying when they stop. been there done that. </p><p></p><p>I would agree with the above, he knows you worry. He may be "punishing" you for not bailing him out, and not being able to accept his calls from jail (which was not within your control because of the way the screwy system was set up, but hey, it's how a difficult child brain works -- everything is our fault!) Try to keep yourself busy ... step back from it, mentally. None of this is your fault. All of this is your difficult children doing. His destiny is up to HIM. Out of a crisis can come change: let him figure this one out.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Hang in there...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 561569, member: 1157"] I've always tried to operate under the assumption that "no news is good news" when it comes to my difficult children. At least, as far as something bad happening to them. I always figure if something did happen, I'd find out. Of all the times I've worried about no contact, it's been wasted worry 100% of the time. *100%*. And believe me, they're not worried about us. This is another difficult detachment lesson .... if we want them to be independent and for things to change, we have to learn how not to worry when they stop calling us. It's what we wanted, right? For the harassment to stop? Such a dichotomy: hating the harassing calls, but worrying when they stop. been there done that. I would agree with the above, he knows you worry. He may be "punishing" you for not bailing him out, and not being able to accept his calls from jail (which was not within your control because of the way the screwy system was set up, but hey, it's how a difficult child brain works -- everything is our fault!) Try to keep yourself busy ... step back from it, mentally. None of this is your fault. All of this is your difficult children doing. His destiny is up to HIM. Out of a crisis can come change: let him figure this one out. Hang in there... [/QUOTE]
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