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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 205694" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>If I have to be accused of wrong doing, I would rather say I was too nurturing than too tough. </p><p>I'm pretty no nonsense with my boys but there times when they needed something more. They routinely slept in their own beds but there were periods in easy child's life, and difficult child when they needed to sleep near the "pack". We let them. As they got to teen years, I felt it was inappropriate to sleep in my bed. They were able to sleep in sleeping bags on the floor near us. It didn't last long. </p><p>When easy child was 16, he started with an occasional seizure and required brain surgery. One night at 2AM, I awoke to find him in our bed next to me sobbing. He thought his life would be over after he just started to find himself. </p><p>I am truly glad he felt he could come to us for nurturing and reassurance when life is just too darn hard. It's what we were meant to do. </p><p>I still have a baby sis who still seems to need to sit very close to me when she is stressed or nervous. It's pretty funny because it isn't intentional. Everyone could use a safety net. </p><p>At 10yrs old, working towards difficult child sleeping on his own is a goal but allowing him the time to be nurtured when life is tough for him is a wonderful gift.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 205694, member: 3"] If I have to be accused of wrong doing, I would rather say I was too nurturing than too tough. I'm pretty no nonsense with my boys but there times when they needed something more. They routinely slept in their own beds but there were periods in easy child's life, and difficult child when they needed to sleep near the "pack". We let them. As they got to teen years, I felt it was inappropriate to sleep in my bed. They were able to sleep in sleeping bags on the floor near us. It didn't last long. When easy child was 16, he started with an occasional seizure and required brain surgery. One night at 2AM, I awoke to find him in our bed next to me sobbing. He thought his life would be over after he just started to find himself. I am truly glad he felt he could come to us for nurturing and reassurance when life is just too darn hard. It's what we were meant to do. I still have a baby sis who still seems to need to sit very close to me when she is stressed or nervous. It's pretty funny because it isn't intentional. Everyone could use a safety net. At 10yrs old, working towards difficult child sleeping on his own is a goal but allowing him the time to be nurtured when life is tough for him is a wonderful gift. [/QUOTE]
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