I saw on a post you made about one of your kids that he had been telling you that he now could understand his feelings or emotions. In the last few years that is what has happened to me too. It is an amazing insight. Like him, I only recognized two basic emotions- anger and calmness. I was either in a fit of rage or I was calm. I had no in between. I didnt know why I got angry either. I never knew that anger could "cover" for so many other underlying emotions. Learning that has opened a whole new world for me. Now I am able to tell someone, Hey...you are hurting my feelings so would you stop that please or I am gonna get upset. Or..Im scared, I need you to reassure me that everything is going to be ok. I am really insecure about Tony being out on the road driving the work van. I used to go off in a meltdown if he was late because I was terrified about what could have happened to him. I couldnt identify that feeling though so I would simply have a huge hissy fit when he walked in the door late and it would be a huge blow out complete with holes in the walls and anger on both parts. We finally solved that by getting two cellphones so I can always reach him and I learned that I was really scared instead of just angry.