I'm not even sure how to write this without it just oozing anger..... After husband and I agreed that we would NOT co-sign for Ant.... I go to work on Saturday (my 2nd job here) and come home to husband's co-signing for a car for Ant. It's a done deal and Ant is out driving his new car. It was only a loan for $5,000 so it's okay you know. OH... and I was informed that we ARE putting Ant on our insurance and he will be paying us for his insurance..... A 20year old with No "good grade" discount, a high school drop-out, a kid with now TWO MIP's to his name. Oh this should be cheap...... But I'm not to be mad at 1) husband disrespecting me and going behind my back and doing something that we had discussed at great lengths...but if things were reversed and I did something for easy child that husband had said not to husband says he wouldn't be mad or upset, he'd understand. He threw a fit when easy child wanted to upgrade to a smart phone and would pay us for it because husband didn't want to risk a $75 debt that easy child might not be able to pay. ????? and he trusts Ant??? 2) at now having my life tied to Ant again. I'm still paying off Ant's rehab. When he said that he was doing great he only smokes pot once in a while, or he only drank when one of his friends passed away, it didn't bother me because it was HIS life. NOW...Hello???? My life here! We are so close to going under and losing EVERYTHING, but we can trust Ant. And why? Because husband threatened to take the car away. In 15 years, husband has NEVER stood firm with any consequence for Ant. I know that. Ant knows that! The only one who doesn't know that husband is a massive pushover is husband! I totally forgot what the stress was like when your life is tied directly to a difficult child. I haven't slept more than 2 hours this weekend. 3) be mad/or stressed about the fact that we don't have the money for me to go to my now very much needed psychiatrist/therapist...buy we can take on Ant's debt because there is no way Ant will follow through because he has never followed through before. husband bought the ocean-front property in Kansas. I didn't. And let's add to this.....yesterday was mother in law's 60th b-day party. We didn't go. It was all fine. Then little brother comes over so we could see our niece and nephew.....where little brother decided to purge what Mommy told him. She really misses her son. And look at how bad father in law is....he made up this photo display and didn't put in one picture of husband. husband bought that hook, line and sinker until I pointed out that father in law can't figure out how to make a bowl of cold cereal without mother in law holding his hand. Did he really think that all of a sudden father in law could do a big photo project on his own?? Little brother always tells husband about whatever mother in law or Steph or any other family member has to say. I walk out of the room and find something that has to be done right then because I don't want to hear it. I think little brother needs to learn to keep his mouth shut. And even though everything little brother says bothers husband and causes him sleepless nights, he can't tell his brother to be quiet because it would hurt his feelings. And this is the guy that is supposed to be tough on ANt. Yeah.... right.... Just when I thought I was out from under difficult child stress.....here I am buried up to my eyeballs. If/When Ant doesn't pay....it will be a very big strain on our marriage. Thanks for reading/listening to me if you got this far.