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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 486440" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks for the validation and understanding... Always helps to know one is not crazy <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Jules, what makes this particularly difficult, I think - and I am sure this is true for your boy - is that J is actually a great kid with lots of potential. I don't want to stick a label on him (particularly if it's not an accurate one) but I would like to know what is happening to cause these difficulties. If someone could say, for example, "he has frontal lobe damage" or whatever. I agree, pepperidge, that that may be an unrealisable goal. </p><p>It is good that you are getting the evaluations now, Jules - it's never too late and 9 is still young (though I understand of course your frustration that it could not have happened earlier). Unfortunately, developmental paediatricians and neuro-psychologists as you would understand them are not on offer here. Perhaps in Paris, but that may as well be New York... I actually think I'd be worse served in the UK, though, for all their more detailed understanding of these issues because it is a country that is experiencing such extreme financial pressure at the moment, severe cuts in all sectors and almost impossible, so I hear from friends, to get decent services in these areas now. At least here things are funded, there is some kind of access to services, however limited in terms of what you may have in the States. </p><p>I've done a lot myself in terms of educating myself and gathering tools and that is important, obviously. I am J's primary caregiver. I've also gone some way to getting the teacher to understand that constant punishment is just counter-productive. My main dilemma is honestly whether to move and where to - a city in France or back to Morocco... The services in Casablanca are not going to be as good as what I would find here, I suspect. On the other hand, it would be good/better for J to be with fellow Moroccans, not to feel like the "outsider twice over" (because of his nationality, because of his differences). </p><p>Jules, I'd be interested to know more... how does your boy get on at school? What have you found works for him in terms of behavioural methods?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 486440, member: 11227"] Thanks for the validation and understanding... Always helps to know one is not crazy :) Jules, what makes this particularly difficult, I think - and I am sure this is true for your boy - is that J is actually a great kid with lots of potential. I don't want to stick a label on him (particularly if it's not an accurate one) but I would like to know what is happening to cause these difficulties. If someone could say, for example, "he has frontal lobe damage" or whatever. I agree, pepperidge, that that may be an unrealisable goal. It is good that you are getting the evaluations now, Jules - it's never too late and 9 is still young (though I understand of course your frustration that it could not have happened earlier). Unfortunately, developmental paediatricians and neuro-psychologists as you would understand them are not on offer here. Perhaps in Paris, but that may as well be New York... I actually think I'd be worse served in the UK, though, for all their more detailed understanding of these issues because it is a country that is experiencing such extreme financial pressure at the moment, severe cuts in all sectors and almost impossible, so I hear from friends, to get decent services in these areas now. At least here things are funded, there is some kind of access to services, however limited in terms of what you may have in the States. I've done a lot myself in terms of educating myself and gathering tools and that is important, obviously. I am J's primary caregiver. I've also gone some way to getting the teacher to understand that constant punishment is just counter-productive. My main dilemma is honestly whether to move and where to - a city in France or back to Morocco... The services in Casablanca are not going to be as good as what I would find here, I suspect. On the other hand, it would be good/better for J to be with fellow Moroccans, not to feel like the "outsider twice over" (because of his nationality, because of his differences). Jules, I'd be interested to know more... how does your boy get on at school? What have you found works for him in terms of behavioural methods? [/QUOTE]
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