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October again, and difficult child J is at it again.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 312125" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Jan, I was hoping all would continue to go well for you.</p><p></p><p>You are very right to fear for the safety of the other members of the family, esp Taz.</p><p></p><p>Did he break your wrist or just strain/sprain them?</p><p></p><p>Either way, bandage them up for protection and then call the police. Tell them that they MUST come out. sound every single bit as upset and scared as you are. Tell them that your infant son is in danger, as are you.</p><p></p><p>When they get there tell them you INSIST on pressing domestic violence charges and difficult child MUST be removed until you will all be safe.</p><p></p><p>If you refuse to allow him to stay in your home they will not want to deal with it. You will have to be firm. Tears help. a LOT. Just don't get hysterical.</p><p></p><p>Tell them that he hurt your wrists on purpose and you are afraid that he will hurt the baby or another of your kids the next time he is upset.</p><p></p><p>Tell them that you just can NOT keep him from hurting others and you NEED help.</p><p></p><p>It isn't fun, or easy. But it WILL get some help.</p><p></p><p>I realize he is anxious and it may drive his behaviors. I realize he has stress and problems.</p><p></p><p>He still cannot be allowed to hurt people. Period. The other children have a right to live in a home where they are not on guard because a sibling may get upset and hurt them. </p><p></p><p>Taz has a right to grow up with-o the strain of having a brother that might hurt/kill him in a fit of anger.</p><p></p><p>Yes, difficult child has rights and problems. But so do the other kids. I firmly believe it is not the right thing to do to let difficult child's problems overshadow the needs and rights of the other children. So many times we focus on our difficult child and his/her problems and we end up not having the energy and resources to realize that difficult child is a danger to the rest of the family.</p><p></p><p>It is so hard. psychiatric hospital may seem like a vacation. Sadly, if he is violent enough to hurt your wrists that way then he probably needs the psychiatric hospital. Vacation from school or not.</p><p></p><p>How much will he get out of school if he is always so anxious and angry?</p><p></p><p>This is so hard. I am very sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 312125, member: 1233"] Jan, I was hoping all would continue to go well for you. You are very right to fear for the safety of the other members of the family, esp Taz. Did he break your wrist or just strain/sprain them? Either way, bandage them up for protection and then call the police. Tell them that they MUST come out. sound every single bit as upset and scared as you are. Tell them that your infant son is in danger, as are you. When they get there tell them you INSIST on pressing domestic violence charges and difficult child MUST be removed until you will all be safe. If you refuse to allow him to stay in your home they will not want to deal with it. You will have to be firm. Tears help. a LOT. Just don't get hysterical. Tell them that he hurt your wrists on purpose and you are afraid that he will hurt the baby or another of your kids the next time he is upset. Tell them that you just can NOT keep him from hurting others and you NEED help. It isn't fun, or easy. But it WILL get some help. I realize he is anxious and it may drive his behaviors. I realize he has stress and problems. He still cannot be allowed to hurt people. Period. The other children have a right to live in a home where they are not on guard because a sibling may get upset and hurt them. Taz has a right to grow up with-o the strain of having a brother that might hurt/kill him in a fit of anger. Yes, difficult child has rights and problems. But so do the other kids. I firmly believe it is not the right thing to do to let difficult child's problems overshadow the needs and rights of the other children. So many times we focus on our difficult child and his/her problems and we end up not having the energy and resources to realize that difficult child is a danger to the rest of the family. It is so hard. psychiatric hospital may seem like a vacation. Sadly, if he is violent enough to hurt your wrists that way then he probably needs the psychiatric hospital. Vacation from school or not. How much will he get out of school if he is always so anxious and angry? This is so hard. I am very sorry. [/QUOTE]
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