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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 102477" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>First, welcome. Your fiance is awfully lucky to have you, so are her kids. It sounds like they have had been through he11 and back. </p><p></p><p>I agree that the first thing that needs to be done is full evaluation -- preferably by a neuropsychologist (check with your nearest Children's Hospital, they should be able to help you find one). ODD rarely stands alone.</p><p></p><p>If you haven't done so, do read The Explosive Child. It works for many of us, some not. Either way, it does give you insight into the reasoning of your child.</p><p></p><p>The sexual abuse and the "changing of the guard" so to speak might also have caused some Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) (reactive attachment disorder). If so, this is not pretty and needs a lot of therapy. A good book to help you on this is Raising the Hurt Child by Keck.</p><p></p><p>We can help give advice with specific behaviors. You'll have to decide what works for you and yours.</p><p></p><p>Don't give up on him. He's still young and there is a lot that can be done to save him -- it may take medications, it may take therapy, it may even require an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but he's not a lost cause. As strange as it sounds, I saw a plus in his break-in -- he didn't go to rob the place but recover something that he thought had been stolen for another. That shows empathy. He used poor judgment but he's young. Kind of to be expected.</p><p></p><p>Many of our kids do well in one arena (school) and then let loose all their energy, frustration and anger at home. Even though he is getting good grades, he may still need an IEP for behavior/homework issues. The school will fight you on this tooth and nail but if you go to the education forum, you'll a lot of help and good advice on how to win that battle.</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome and so sorry you have to be here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 102477, member: 3626"] First, welcome. Your fiance is awfully lucky to have you, so are her kids. It sounds like they have had been through he11 and back. I agree that the first thing that needs to be done is full evaluation -- preferably by a neuropsychologist (check with your nearest Children's Hospital, they should be able to help you find one). ODD rarely stands alone. If you haven't done so, do read The Explosive Child. It works for many of us, some not. Either way, it does give you insight into the reasoning of your child. The sexual abuse and the "changing of the guard" so to speak might also have caused some Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) (reactive attachment disorder). If so, this is not pretty and needs a lot of therapy. A good book to help you on this is Raising the Hurt Child by Keck. We can help give advice with specific behaviors. You'll have to decide what works for you and yours. Don't give up on him. He's still young and there is a lot that can be done to save him -- it may take medications, it may take therapy, it may even require an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but he's not a lost cause. As strange as it sounds, I saw a plus in his break-in -- he didn't go to rob the place but recover something that he thought had been stolen for another. That shows empathy. He used poor judgment but he's young. Kind of to be expected. Many of our kids do well in one arena (school) and then let loose all their energy, frustration and anger at home. Even though he is getting good grades, he may still need an IEP for behavior/homework issues. The school will fight you on this tooth and nail but if you go to the education forum, you'll a lot of help and good advice on how to win that battle. Again, welcome and so sorry you have to be here. [/QUOTE]
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