Hi I just found your site and signed up. I desparately need input and help learning how to deal with my daughter who is 15 (16 in three weeks). She has been diagnosed with ODD, specifically, but with a plethera of underlying diagnoses such as Anxiety Disorder, ADHD, Anti-Social Behavior...on and on. She is currently in juvenile detention for the 15th time in 4 years. Usually what she gets "incarcerated" for is assult against me. She was also in a long term detention center for 6 months 2 years ago. Our relationship is at a complete and total breakdown. I don't like her, trust her, or want to be around her anymore. Which I know is not condusive to helping her, but I don't know how to get past it!! She pretty much feels the same about me. She refuses to go to/participate in couseling mainly because she has trust issues, but also because she doesn't feel it does her any good. She believes she doesn't have a problem, she thinks it is all me and that I am crazy. And while I won't deny that I have issues myself, I KNOW that she has some real deep issues, and have since she was very, very small. I am a single mother with a very limited income and on state assistance for her medical which causes me to have to take her to counselors who usually are not qualified or who are looking to "move up job ladder" and end up getting something new which causes her to believe that they are abandoning HER. Whew!! So, anyway, I am just looking specifically for input/help from people who have teenage children with ODD and how you cope and if you have found anything that helps? Thank you!!!