farmhousegirl
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Hello everyone, I'm new here :grins:
husband and I have been married nearly 20 years, and we have 6 children from the ages of 19 down to twins who are 18 months old. We adopted our 9 year old when he was just turning 2. He is our only adopted child.
Our son has developmental disabilities. His current IQ is in the low 60's. That is not the problem. It's the constant screaming and fighting that has become our life. Nothing is his fault--EVER. He lashes out at his 6 year old brother, hitting him often. He's taken to calling me, "Ne-Ne" instead of "Mom". I'm getting several calls a week about his bad behavior at school. Nobody gets respect from him, either at home or at school. If he does not want to do something, he just will not do it--for anyone.
I'm not sure how to parent him. Nothing that works for our other kids work for him....he just does not care. The only thing he does care about is video games. When we take those away, he flips out, screaming, kicking, hitting--acting like a wild animal.
He is on medication for his adhd and social anxiety. He takes Medadate, Prozac and he just started Intuniv too. His Dr. thought that the Intuniv might help with his behavior issues saying that it sounds like Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
Guess I'm here looking for support. Life is so hard with him. We recently went on a family vacation and he made it miserable for all of us. I'm afraid of what our, and his, future holds. Right not he can't hurt me, but he's a big boy and will be a teen before long. He's hurting his brother, he's rough with our cats. Each day I dread dealing with his behavior, and it's getting to me.
~Jen
husband and I have been married nearly 20 years, and we have 6 children from the ages of 19 down to twins who are 18 months old. We adopted our 9 year old when he was just turning 2. He is our only adopted child.
Our son has developmental disabilities. His current IQ is in the low 60's. That is not the problem. It's the constant screaming and fighting that has become our life. Nothing is his fault--EVER. He lashes out at his 6 year old brother, hitting him often. He's taken to calling me, "Ne-Ne" instead of "Mom". I'm getting several calls a week about his bad behavior at school. Nobody gets respect from him, either at home or at school. If he does not want to do something, he just will not do it--for anyone.
I'm not sure how to parent him. Nothing that works for our other kids work for him....he just does not care. The only thing he does care about is video games. When we take those away, he flips out, screaming, kicking, hitting--acting like a wild animal.
He is on medication for his adhd and social anxiety. He takes Medadate, Prozac and he just started Intuniv too. His Dr. thought that the Intuniv might help with his behavior issues saying that it sounds like Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
Guess I'm here looking for support. Life is so hard with him. We recently went on a family vacation and he made it miserable for all of us. I'm afraid of what our, and his, future holds. Right not he can't hurt me, but he's a big boy and will be a teen before long. He's hurting his brother, he's rough with our cats. Each day I dread dealing with his behavior, and it's getting to me.
~Jen