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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 151163" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I beg to differ too. He is excusing himself. Parents often give wake up calls to parents who come for help here. This man needs to get help for himself as well as his stepson if he wants his family to get better and I don't feel we are helping him by acting like he is behaving all right. Sometimes we ALL need to re-evaluate how we behave toward our kids. I know I've had to sit back and think about it. If you don't like your stepchild, the first thing to do is to get counseling for the entire family (which I suggested) because the child isn't going away. I think that's appropriate help. Also, this child could use another evaluation. It seems to me that nobody wants this child. How is it helpful to any parent to say "We understand" without explaining that HE needs help too? I won't speak on the topic again, but I thought hard before answering this post. This man is admitting the problems (which is very good). He just needs to act on getting help for what he admits are his own problems or the family won't get better. Coming from the perspective of "This kid is bad, he's ruining MY family, I can't change etc." nothing will get better. Nobody is trying to chase him away. If he doesn't respond, maybe that isn't what he wanted to hear, however he asked for our input. He got mine. I think the entire family needs immediate help. He has to accept this child. I agree with Sara.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 151163, member: 1550"] I beg to differ too. He is excusing himself. Parents often give wake up calls to parents who come for help here. This man needs to get help for himself as well as his stepson if he wants his family to get better and I don't feel we are helping him by acting like he is behaving all right. Sometimes we ALL need to re-evaluate how we behave toward our kids. I know I've had to sit back and think about it. If you don't like your stepchild, the first thing to do is to get counseling for the entire family (which I suggested) because the child isn't going away. I think that's appropriate help. Also, this child could use another evaluation. It seems to me that nobody wants this child. How is it helpful to any parent to say "We understand" without explaining that HE needs help too? I won't speak on the topic again, but I thought hard before answering this post. This man is admitting the problems (which is very good). He just needs to act on getting help for what he admits are his own problems or the family won't get better. Coming from the perspective of "This kid is bad, he's ruining MY family, I can't change etc." nothing will get better. Nobody is trying to chase him away. If he doesn't respond, maybe that isn't what he wanted to hear, however he asked for our input. He got mine. I think the entire family needs immediate help. He has to accept this child. I agree with Sara. [/QUOTE]
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