Well hello, wickedsgrace,
You made me smile asking who here has children with ODD? I mean, well, mmmm, isn't that what most of our kids here have? At least, the difficult child children (what we call Gifts from God, i.e., our difficult children).
Mine is certainly ODD. That was the diagnosis we got from the local mental health clinic psychologist when we searched for help after two suicide attempts which were more calls for help than real attempts, but still very very distressing at the age of 12 and 13. He is now 21. And still dreadfully difficult.
I don't know how you go about getting a diagnosis in the USA. I am in Israel and the health system here is quite different, although not bad, considering.
Although the generally accepted opinion is that ODD comes along with other disorders, ours seems to be just ODD, straight and undiluted. Like whisky -- neat!
Anyway, welcome, and please tell us a bit more about yourself and your ODD child.
Love, Esther