Well, welcome to the diabetic club. Yeah I know, not a club anyone wants to join, but here we are {SIGH}. I was diagnosis'd a year ago, and to get my health under control I was taking Metformin, avandia, diamicron (diabetic); low-dose ASA, Dyazide, coversyl (high blood pressure); lipitor (cholestorol). Since then I have stuck fairly firmly to a low-carb/sugar, lots of veggies diet. I do the portion control, divide your plate into 4 & have 1/2 veggies, 1/4 protein, 1/4 carb. I have lost about 125 pounds and as of this week I am off the avandia & diamicron and all other medications dosages cut in half & the doctor looking for me to be off pretty much everything in Sept. at my next appointment. for bloodwork. My doctor was grinning and excited at my results this week, he's almost happier about it than me LOL.
Get as much info, advice, books etc on proper diet and such from your doctor, health centers, where ever you can find it. They have some pretty good sugar free products, just found some tasty sugar-free raspberry jam (sweetened with sucralose). Love raspberry jam and had been missing it, and when I went shopping Sat. for groceries there it was just sitting on the shelf. I don't know why I hadn't thought of looking before. That's the main thing, instead of thinking that you can't have this or that anymore, just look for alternatives. And one thing I've found, cutting out on the sugar filled stuff has made me able to taste the sweetness in lots of other things I hadn't noticed before. Yeah it kinda *****, it's not easy, when I was first diagnosis'd I was very depressed about it. But managing things carefully I don't feel deprived and am now feeling better health-wise and with coping with it. As WFEN said, it was my wake-up call to get my health in line, or else, kind of thing.
I'm sorry for the stress your husband & difficult child are adding. With my difficult child struggling right now, I'm finding myself struggling against the urge to stuff things in my mouth to cope (emotional eater here) I agree with Marg, they're both at an age where they need to sit down and learn to deal with their conflicts in a more grown-up manner, rather than running to mom and doing a he said/she said tell her/him I'm right kind of thing. Let them know right now you're concentrating on you and getting your health in order.