So the law advocate just called. She said that she was talking to the director of Special Education about another meeting she has and said she wanted to talk about another kid. She mentioned Q's name and I guess the lady knows him (now understand we have 20 elementary schools, six middle schools, six highschools, several early childhood programs, three separate Special Education. programs including transition plus and pathways ebd program....) and I have never met the woman so ???? I guess we are news in her office. Law advocate asked if she had met me and she said no but she has heard good things, that was good to hear (whew). Anyway she said she has had concerns from day one when she met the school people at the end of Nov. She told her about hte issues with the psychologist and she said she has known this director for many years and has made complaints against staff and this has never happened. She said that she NEEDS me to put it all in writing. That she herself is very concerned. I am not really happy, that would not be the right word... she had said she was going to make my day and I thought she meant that we found the perfect placement, but sadly it is not really directly about Q. Anyway, she said in her experience with this director, when there is more silence there is more going on and she always sees some results after. Law advocate asked that nothing happen where it could come back to hurt me or Q in anyway and she said, no there is a way this will be handled...so she feels this is not the first issue. I am just thinking that back when he told everyone at the IEP meeting that he grabbed Q by the arm, and I brought it up with the sp ed coordinator (not the director, those under her) and also mr sp ed admin that they must have said something which I would think they would be compelled to do because they would not want to be caught off guard if someone called cps. I didn't but they are acting in roles as mandated reporters so I wonder if they did. I simply do not (you all know I have said this) like to think of "getting someone fired" though I would have been happy if those two bus drivers would have been fired..... but I would like him on their radar. I think if you have trouble with anger/temper, you really need to not be the person who is called to any kind of behavior crisis. He may have good skills in other areas but maybe not with this kind of kid. I am hoping that is what is going on. (Unless there is way more to the story that I dont know) I am going to look at the threads I have here and what I have written in my notes/journal about school etc. and then will put it together. I think this is not as good news as law advocate thought it would be to me, but I am going to do what is right because Q is not the only behavior challenge in that school. I just keep thinking that if he has fully admitted and I have witnessed things, what is happening behind the scenes. Feeling pretty nervous and my headache has moved to the right side more than the left and so I think I will wait to write it tomorrow. Any advice you guys have for how to word things, I am open. I was told that they know that I am pretty reliable and have worked with the school here for several years with no complaints so they feel it is a pretty credible concern. OK, once again gonna get my conflict hating butt off the chair and do it.