Yeah, Please don't be telling me it's something I should get used to - I'll get there if I get there. It felt like the Twilight Zone since it was DD1 (my difficult child) that woke me telling me the cops were at the door and it was "important" "lady, you gotta call the nurse M at the hospital" Apparently mother in law is in critical condition, and they tried calling me because I was originally on all her directives, but she changed it to her son in CA and they couldn't get a hold of him. So since I was local, they sent cops out to me. They need another family member contact, and although I was on her original papers, since I'm not anymore, I don't count as family for critical decisions. Ah, hmmmmmmmmmmm. That puts me in quite the pickle. She did NOT want husband and 'that' sister notified of ANYTHING. So I explained this to the nurse, and she told me it was so critical that they overrode her current directive by contacting ME. So I gave her husband's # (cell phone which I have no clue if it's still active since he hasn't called since January) and then I looked up the sister's # (I came across it a few weeks ago while doing searches online) and gave them that as well. And yes, there is yet another sister in CA but I have no information on her - she might even be out of the country. So now if they're gonna contact husband and his sister, I KNOW there's gonna be some sort of fallout on me. UHG! Probably some difficult child rant about why I didn't' take better care of her or something! by the way husband had moved her into our house, and then he moved out 4 months later. mother in law was the one that caught them and confirmed "the relationship" to me. So he not only abandoned me and his kids, he abandoned his mom as well. YUP! YOU got it! My mother in law lived with me, my husband did not. At least temporarily, it wasn't a bad set up. I had in home child care, but....yeah. AND now I know I need a new phone (or at least another extension in my room) because they tried calling 3X and I never heard the phone ring. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I had let mother in law take the good old phone when she moved out. No sympathies for me, thanks, but all souls do deserve prayers. She was in a LOT of chronic pain - both physical due to a messed up body, and emotional due to a messed up life. She is better off. Ironic though that her birthday is in a few days.