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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 374705" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Yeah. I'm still investigating and thinking at this point. Just getting her and the kids here would be a hurdle unto it's self. Those boundaries would stay firmly in place. Because they are the same boundaries that her sibs live by. I help them help themselves, I don't "fix" their problems. I won't have issues sticking to them despite my wanting to swoop in and rescue them. Because I know that doesn't really help someone at all, especially a difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I finally responded to her. I told her I needed to know what she's thinking/hoping/wanting for her future. Told her I needed to know what she thinks would happen once she made it here because odds are it wouldn't be any better (except less dangerous) than where she is now........other than family would be nearby to support her. I told her we're looking into what services/shelters are available, but I don't want her to get her hopes up until we start getting some information. Made it clear she would not be moving in with family.......did it in a nice way by simply being honest that none of us can afford to do it nor do we have the room.</p><p></p><p>There is not much else I can do for her. Just have to hope she has hit rock bottom and is ready to claw her way out and back up to the top. Did tell her it was going to be rough for awhile and hard work. Guess time will tell if she's really ready or not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 374705, member: 84"] Yeah. I'm still investigating and thinking at this point. Just getting her and the kids here would be a hurdle unto it's self. Those boundaries would stay firmly in place. Because they are the same boundaries that her sibs live by. I help them help themselves, I don't "fix" their problems. I won't have issues sticking to them despite my wanting to swoop in and rescue them. Because I know that doesn't really help someone at all, especially a difficult child. I finally responded to her. I told her I needed to know what she's thinking/hoping/wanting for her future. Told her I needed to know what she thinks would happen once she made it here because odds are it wouldn't be any better (except less dangerous) than where she is now........other than family would be nearby to support her. I told her we're looking into what services/shelters are available, but I don't want her to get her hopes up until we start getting some information. Made it clear she would not be moving in with family.......did it in a nice way by simply being honest that none of us can afford to do it nor do we have the room. There is not much else I can do for her. Just have to hope she has hit rock bottom and is ready to claw her way out and back up to the top. Did tell her it was going to be rough for awhile and hard work. Guess time will tell if she's really ready or not. [/QUOTE]
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