Oh that gym class... After a gap of three weeks for the school holidays (there are lots of those here!),J had his gym class today. We have or had got into the routine of me dropping him off, then coming to collect him at the end - each time, the teacher has said to me, "Fantastic, no problems, he was very good". Well, today - all was chaotic! He wouldn't let me leave, clinging to me and crying. Eventually I said I would stay, knowing it would mean he would play up. And he did - not listening to the teacher, putting his tongue out at him, running around everywhere, not waiting his turn. Etc, etc. At the end of it I feel frazzled and cross, wondering what it is that has gone "wrong". Is it the fact that we have been away for three weeks? That he was tired - he went to sleep in the car on the way home and is now fast asleep, at not even 6pm? Or just because this is how life is with challenging kids? I don't know... times like this I feel like a hypocrite. All the stuff I say on here about accepting him as he is and then he plays up like that in a social setting and I feel cross and embarrassed... I guess my question is (apart from just letting off steam) - and it might be the 10 million dollar question - is to what degree can such children "help" their behaviour when they are naughty, disruptive like this? The teacher, I noticed, is softer with him than he is with the other kids - I think this is because I said to him some time ago that J is hyperactive and, being the nice man he is, perhaps he just thinks this behaviour is not his "fault". But I'm not sure how wise it is. And I know that I go on about the collaborative approach!! But I think that is between me and him. With others, in social settings, he seems to respond to firm boundaries. Then I was cross with him afterwards and he got upset - said all this stuff about "you don't like me and I'm going to go and stay with Daddy" and "I feel sad" and "I"m not going to listen to you", etc... But I feel it just doesn't serve him not to tell his this behaviour is not acceptable and won't help him... I don't know!!