Before anyone asks why on earth we would go on vacation like this, knowing that difficult child will ramp things up... Family vacations are very important to my inlaws. They love taking us places, they pay for just about everything, and I'm not about to let myself, my husband, or my sons miss out on times like this just because difficult child acts like a bratty punk from hell. I won't let her "win" that way - I want her to see us having fun despite her attitude. Anyway. We're on vacation right now with my inlaws - it's my mother in law and father in law, sister in law and brother in law with their 4 kids, and my family. We're all in a house together). difficult child has turned her hatred and scorn of me up several notches, seemingly taking every opportunity possible to be defiant and rude, to assert that she doesn't have to listen to me, and to tell anyone who will listen (even though everyone is tired of it) about how horrible her life is, how stupid her family is, how mean and strict I am, how she wishes that stepparents were illegal (that one was on the plane, waiting to disembark, with a slew of others around - nice, huh?), how dumb it is that we expect her to make decent grades (which for her is a C or above in every class) because school is stupid and boring, how she wishes she lived with ANYONE else but me, how she would totally follow the rules at someone else's house but thinks ours are stupid, etc etc blah blah blah. Basically she's being a total b-word. And although the rest of us all get along beautifully and have fun together, difficult child's attitude casts a negative pallor over everything. She is talking nonstop about how everything in her life sucks, and it's all MY fault. I can't say anything because anything I would say would escalate the situation. She rejects everything I say or suggest, JUST BECAUSE it was I who suggested it. Like last night on the way home from dinner, I offered to make a BBQ dinner for everyone one evening. difficult child yells from the backseat "No BBQ! Or, can Uncle P make it?" Knowing full well that I'm a damn good cook - she was just saying that to be rude. She spent most of last night's dinner going on and on about her horrible life and her evil stepmom (she did get reprimanded to stop a few times, nobody really believes her at all, and I was at the opposite end of the table). So I've just taken to staying as far away from her as possible. But I'm not about to hide out in my room. If I'm in the kitchen hanging out with people, and she comes in being a punk, then SHE is the one who has to leave. It's just exhausting, and more than once I've literally felt my blood pressure rise when I hear her talk - sometimes it's everything I can do to not just GO OFF on her and/or smack her across the face (which I would never, ever do - it would give her too much ammo). People are usually pretty good about not engaging her, and I know that nobody believes her. But still. Her attitude sours everything, and the bad thing is she thinks that she can actually convince people that she's right. Yuck. I have the house all to myself right now, and I'm going to enjoy every minute of it!