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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 238502" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Terry12: When I have days similar to this day you have described I will sometimes say out loud : What was my horoscope today? Hide under the covers you just don't want to go there!</p><p></p><p>Right now I have a window broken out of my car and all the locks were broken or removed and the interior consol was totally broken by a theif. </p><p>I definitely remember the days when the phone rang and it was the teacher again.</p><p>I do not find that language is an appropriate reason to remove a child from the school either. </p><p>The business about the lesbian as a "man" who had the babies....it is cruel to punish a child for commenting or knowing about that. And when children come to school with tidbits of biology (orgasms, as an example) what a teacher needs to be doing is establishing a boundary and not invalidating the child for what has pasted infront of their ever learning attention field. The first thing a teacher REALLY does need to do is take time to learn from the child what they do know about orgasm.</p><p>And if it doesnt reveal an immediate need to call police to investigate a crime then the teacher needs to establish the one on one relationship with her student where they have a safe environment to talk about what they know or has happened to them. </p><p>The last call I recieved about something my child said was a body part word. I was called by the school conselor about the pronouncement of the body part word in the classroom. Hearing the complaint about the use of the body part word in the manner it was (outloud) I acknowledged that saying that word causing the teacher to feel alarmed was not ideal for me as a parent. However I also commended the school district for their role in teaching my child the correct words for the body parts. I said "at least he didn't say salty nut sac, which would have been much more alarming".</p><p>One of the side effects of having children with the predictable unpredictable behavior potential is that we as adults are reminded in these ackward moments how difficult it is to grow up in a social context. Part of the maturation we as the adults enjoy is around the acceptance of what girls and boys will do and being able to squire them into more seemly conduct with the aplume that really saves the day for all of us.</p><p>for the teachers, alot of them are younge, and even for teachers who are older sometimes it will be our child who ventures into that realm where as parent we hear teacher say "not ever in all my years has a child ever...done what it is that your child did today"....the big lesson is "learn something new everyday!" That's my boy!</p><p></p><p>The thinking process your child is validly presenting with the orgasm as baby making. This is not the first time I have heard a younge boy express insistance that men make babies too. In my veiw their growing awareness about this is normal</p><p>and adults need to accept that. We tend to be very hard on boys about sex because we tend to feel that somehow sex did become a form of male entertainment when the marketing of sexually tantilizing behavior exploded on the marketing scene. </p><p>When my son was pre-school age and came home with ideas about sex he learned today at the school from the other children I had the where with all to ask him what he knew. From that point I was able to speak to his questions based on his awareness level in an honest way that respects age appropriate awareness and was in line with the facts in the bigger picture.</p><p>These bodies and our biology are self awareness and I do not feel that children who learn what ever crosses their radar are being inapropriate when they share it.</p><p>It is through our mannerly mastery of the social graces that we help each other with the ackwardness of realities, and it is a complex behavior that our children learn only from the care of others.</p><p>Hope the next day is much less dramatical.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 238502, member: 6271"] Terry12: When I have days similar to this day you have described I will sometimes say out loud : What was my horoscope today? Hide under the covers you just don't want to go there! Right now I have a window broken out of my car and all the locks were broken or removed and the interior consol was totally broken by a theif. I definitely remember the days when the phone rang and it was the teacher again. I do not find that language is an appropriate reason to remove a child from the school either. The business about the lesbian as a "man" who had the babies....it is cruel to punish a child for commenting or knowing about that. And when children come to school with tidbits of biology (orgasms, as an example) what a teacher needs to be doing is establishing a boundary and not invalidating the child for what has pasted infront of their ever learning attention field. The first thing a teacher REALLY does need to do is take time to learn from the child what they do know about orgasm. And if it doesnt reveal an immediate need to call police to investigate a crime then the teacher needs to establish the one on one relationship with her student where they have a safe environment to talk about what they know or has happened to them. The last call I recieved about something my child said was a body part word. I was called by the school conselor about the pronouncement of the body part word in the classroom. Hearing the complaint about the use of the body part word in the manner it was (outloud) I acknowledged that saying that word causing the teacher to feel alarmed was not ideal for me as a parent. However I also commended the school district for their role in teaching my child the correct words for the body parts. I said "at least he didn't say salty nut sac, which would have been much more alarming". One of the side effects of having children with the predictable unpredictable behavior potential is that we as adults are reminded in these ackward moments how difficult it is to grow up in a social context. Part of the maturation we as the adults enjoy is around the acceptance of what girls and boys will do and being able to squire them into more seemly conduct with the aplume that really saves the day for all of us. for the teachers, alot of them are younge, and even for teachers who are older sometimes it will be our child who ventures into that realm where as parent we hear teacher say "not ever in all my years has a child ever...done what it is that your child did today"....the big lesson is "learn something new everyday!" That's my boy! The thinking process your child is validly presenting with the orgasm as baby making. This is not the first time I have heard a younge boy express insistance that men make babies too. In my veiw their growing awareness about this is normal and adults need to accept that. We tend to be very hard on boys about sex because we tend to feel that somehow sex did become a form of male entertainment when the marketing of sexually tantilizing behavior exploded on the marketing scene. When my son was pre-school age and came home with ideas about sex he learned today at the school from the other children I had the where with all to ask him what he knew. From that point I was able to speak to his questions based on his awareness level in an honest way that respects age appropriate awareness and was in line with the facts in the bigger picture. These bodies and our biology are self awareness and I do not feel that children who learn what ever crosses their radar are being inapropriate when they share it. It is through our mannerly mastery of the social graces that we help each other with the ackwardness of realities, and it is a complex behavior that our children learn only from the care of others. Hope the next day is much less dramatical. [/QUOTE]
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