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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 597369" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>So I went to court today... I went early so I could speak to his PO. I told her that he had had more treatment than she knew... and that no way could he live with the girlfriend and that in fact one of the charges involved her!! I said I didnt necessarily want him to know I was saying anything but I wanted her to have the facts. </p><p></p><p>The girlfriend also came to court and I actually talked to her quite a bit... her story is quite a bit different than difficult children and I trust her a lot more than I trust him (sad but true). She says he lies to her all the time and she never knows what to believe... and also that when he gets drunk he gets violent. (Ugh not what I want to hear). It doesnt sound like from her point of view they are really in a relationship, more of a friendship. She cares about him and wants to help him. I told her I think every time they start talking he gets his hopes up and it might be better if after he is settled she really cuts it off or at least makes it really clear there is no hope.</p><p></p><p>So we went into court... he has been cooperating with the drug court evaluation..... and everything is postponed until Tuesday when the lawyer from yesterday can be there... so he is being held until then. I think it is on hold because they are looking for some kind of residential treatment for him. Sounds like drug court is pretty strict and has different levels... ie residential then outpatient, but if you test dirty you go back or end up in jail. He is looking at a possible 18 month sentance sohe will agree to residential treatment.</p><p></p><p>Makes me wonder if we should have left it to the courts a long time ago instead of trying to find him our own treatment!!! Of course it wont be as nice but that was his own doing. Then I think well at least this way I know we have done everything we can and he keeps choosing to leave or break the rules and get kicked out..... so I do not have to wonder if we did enough.</p><p></p><p>The girlfriend has a connection with a doctor at one of the premium mental health places here and she was thinking of asking him if he coudl get him help..... at first i thought great... and then I thought no wait a mintue that will cost us again, and really we are done paying for treatment.... he doesnt stick with it. It is time to let the court handle this.... we have given him chance after chance after chance and we cant do it yet again.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 597369, member: 15801"] So I went to court today... I went early so I could speak to his PO. I told her that he had had more treatment than she knew... and that no way could he live with the girlfriend and that in fact one of the charges involved her!! I said I didnt necessarily want him to know I was saying anything but I wanted her to have the facts. The girlfriend also came to court and I actually talked to her quite a bit... her story is quite a bit different than difficult children and I trust her a lot more than I trust him (sad but true). She says he lies to her all the time and she never knows what to believe... and also that when he gets drunk he gets violent. (Ugh not what I want to hear). It doesnt sound like from her point of view they are really in a relationship, more of a friendship. She cares about him and wants to help him. I told her I think every time they start talking he gets his hopes up and it might be better if after he is settled she really cuts it off or at least makes it really clear there is no hope. So we went into court... he has been cooperating with the drug court evaluation..... and everything is postponed until Tuesday when the lawyer from yesterday can be there... so he is being held until then. I think it is on hold because they are looking for some kind of residential treatment for him. Sounds like drug court is pretty strict and has different levels... ie residential then outpatient, but if you test dirty you go back or end up in jail. He is looking at a possible 18 month sentance sohe will agree to residential treatment. Makes me wonder if we should have left it to the courts a long time ago instead of trying to find him our own treatment!!! Of course it wont be as nice but that was his own doing. Then I think well at least this way I know we have done everything we can and he keeps choosing to leave or break the rules and get kicked out..... so I do not have to wonder if we did enough. The girlfriend has a connection with a doctor at one of the premium mental health places here and she was thinking of asking him if he coudl get him help..... at first i thought great... and then I thought no wait a mintue that will cost us again, and really we are done paying for treatment.... he doesnt stick with it. It is time to let the court handle this.... we have given him chance after chance after chance and we cant do it yet again. TL [/QUOTE]
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