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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 407886" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Hi Patricia, looong time no hear! I'm sorry to hear difficult child 2 is still struggling. We've just come off what was undoubtedly the worst four years of my difficult child 1's life with very similar issues and are now finally seeing some light thanks to medical interventions he needed, medication changes he needed, getting him back in to see a therapist and giving him a quarter off for home/hospital instruction due to one of the medical issues.</p><p> </p><p>Given what I know about your family and what I know about difficult child 2, I'm inclined to agree with the psychiatrist's assessment. I think if you took the depression away completely, you'd still have some of the oppositionality, which is normal to a degree for this age, but likely nowhere near what you are seeing now. I think he needs a break and I think you need to look into whether there's an alternative program you can enroll him in for the short term to remove some of the school pressure. Then I think you and psychiatrist need to take a hard look at his medications to see where they can be changed or adjusted to better address his symptoms. And finally I think he needs to go back into counseling until he starts turning around.</p><p> </p><p>In our case, difficult child 1 was put on home/hospital instruction for the last half of his first semester because he was having a lot of medical issues, which at the time I'd attributed to anxiety because they looked a lot like IBS (PM me for the long version). The district sent a tutor who was actually a credentialled teacher to our home for up to 5 hours a week. At the end of the semester, the tutor's grades were averaged in with the grade he had at the start of the program and that was his final grade for the semester. He ended up going from C's, D's and F's to all B's. We got his medical issue resolved so he his feeling LOADS better, and he's seeing a therapist every 2 weeks to work on some of his behavior issues. AFTER that H/H program concluded, we opted to enroll him in our district's independent study program which allows him to take up to 2 classes at his home campus and the rest of the subjects through independent study. (PM me for more details). So far, he is getting A's in all his work. Our plan for now is to re-enroll him at his home campus full time in the Fall.</p><p> </p><p>In tandem with all this, he's being re-evaluated for an IEP -- mainly to get him into a Critical Skills class which I think he still needs... but it's moving slowly.</p><p> </p><p>I still believe in Ross Greene's affirmation that a child will do well if he/she can. Right now I think there are too many roadblocks in your difficult child 2's way for him to do as well as he can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 407886, member: 3444"] Hi Patricia, looong time no hear! I'm sorry to hear difficult child 2 is still struggling. We've just come off what was undoubtedly the worst four years of my difficult child 1's life with very similar issues and are now finally seeing some light thanks to medical interventions he needed, medication changes he needed, getting him back in to see a therapist and giving him a quarter off for home/hospital instruction due to one of the medical issues. Given what I know about your family and what I know about difficult child 2, I'm inclined to agree with the psychiatrist's assessment. I think if you took the depression away completely, you'd still have some of the oppositionality, which is normal to a degree for this age, but likely nowhere near what you are seeing now. I think he needs a break and I think you need to look into whether there's an alternative program you can enroll him in for the short term to remove some of the school pressure. Then I think you and psychiatrist need to take a hard look at his medications to see where they can be changed or adjusted to better address his symptoms. And finally I think he needs to go back into counseling until he starts turning around. In our case, difficult child 1 was put on home/hospital instruction for the last half of his first semester because he was having a lot of medical issues, which at the time I'd attributed to anxiety because they looked a lot like IBS (PM me for the long version). The district sent a tutor who was actually a credentialled teacher to our home for up to 5 hours a week. At the end of the semester, the tutor's grades were averaged in with the grade he had at the start of the program and that was his final grade for the semester. He ended up going from C's, D's and F's to all B's. We got his medical issue resolved so he his feeling LOADS better, and he's seeing a therapist every 2 weeks to work on some of his behavior issues. AFTER that H/H program concluded, we opted to enroll him in our district's independent study program which allows him to take up to 2 classes at his home campus and the rest of the subjects through independent study. (PM me for more details). So far, he is getting A's in all his work. Our plan for now is to re-enroll him at his home campus full time in the Fall. In tandem with all this, he's being re-evaluated for an IEP -- mainly to get him into a Critical Skills class which I think he still needs... but it's moving slowly. I still believe in Ross Greene's affirmation that a child will do well if he/she can. Right now I think there are too many roadblocks in your difficult child 2's way for him to do as well as he can. [/QUOTE]
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