OK- He is going to Residential Treatment Center (RTC)

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by oceans, Feb 23, 2007.

  1. oceans

    oceans New Member

    It is out of my hands. They were going to discharge him to home today, even though he told me that if he went home he was going to kill himself. I told them that as much as I wanted him to come home that I was not feeling comfortable about what he was saying and how he was acting. He was refusing to work with me on the home contract of rules that the hospital required.

    Today they were going to discharge him to home anyway, but he was heard threatening to kill himself several times this morning. They began to feel uncomfortable about the home idea, and made the decision that they were going to transfer him to the local state hospital/Residential Treatment Center (RTC).

    In between all of these calls, difficult child called me and pleaded to come home and that he would work on doing all the rules we needed to agree to. He was so upset.

    The decision was out of my hands.

    I am shook up because I already had planned his school bus starting up again and made some therapist and psychiatrist appointments. I was in the "he is coming home"mindframe already. But- I realize that he is not ready yet. I know he needs more therapy, and more time to work on the medications.

    This is an emotional roller coaster!
     
  2. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    I know you must be upset by the sudden change in plans, but you also know that this is for the best. He needs more treatment and supervision than you can do at home right now. A big hug for your pain, though.
     
  3. smallworld

    smallworld Moderator

    Oceans, I'm really sorry, but I agree that this is for the best. You've been struggling for so long to get help for your difficult child. I hope the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will provide both therapeutic interventions and medication management that will truly make a difference. Sending gentle hugs your way.
     
  4. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I am so glad they took it our of your hands. It makes it easier to accept that way - for both of you.

    I am so sorry things did not go as planned. I hope this longer stay proves to be promising!
     
  5. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Thinking of you and your family....It gets easier with a plan for treatment......
     
  6. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    I am sorry for your pain Oceans. I hope they can help him and the medications start working for him.
    Try to help yourself as well.

    Hugs
     
  7. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    I agree with the others. He needs more help than you could give him at home now. I'm so sorry you're going through all this pain. Sending cyber hugs. WFEN
     
  8. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oceans...can you PM me the name of the placement that he is going to? Is it the one on the grounds of the state hospital at Dix? If so, that is where Cory went and they really were nice to him. He had a birthday in there and we were allowed to bring a cake and ice cream. The food is lousy but that was Corys only complaint.
     
  9. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    I'm so very glad that this decision was made for you. When both kt & wm were first admitted to Residential Treatment Center (RTC), I let the others present it to the tweedles as a decision made by psychiatrist.

    It took me off the hook - I could breath a sigh of relief.

    I'm glad that difficult child is getting the help he needs. I'm glad that you will be safe; that difficult child will be safe.

    Now take a long bath, have a good cry if need be & start concentrating on building your strength.

    You're a good mom!
     
  10. jodyice

    jodyice New Member

    Ditto with what everyone else said. Know you're in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  11. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    I have no words of wisdom. I have no questions. I do have great
    compassion for you and your family as your ride the rollercoaster
    of mental health issues. You will be included in my prayers.
    DDD
     
  12. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oceans,
    I'm sorry for the emotional rollercoaster ride. Prayers and hugs.
     
  13. oceans

    oceans New Member

    Thank you for all the support! He is on the way there right now and I am waiting for a phone call.

    Janet- I PM'd you. I don't think that it is where you are thinking, but perhaps you know something about that place too.
     
  14. Loris

    Loris New Member

    I'm sorry you're suffering this pain, but I agree that this is the best for him. This did take it out of your hands and I'm sure the roller coaster is really hard to handle. Many hugs and prayers.
     
  15. Janna

    Janna New Member

    Ahh, Oceans, I'm sorry. It sounds like this is the best thing for him right now.

    It's a hard decision, but I'm glad they took it off your hands and made it themselves. I hope he gets better where he is.

    Keeping positive thoughts, my friend.

    Janna
     
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