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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 169623" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I'm a little late on this thread but here's my take.</p><p></p><p>I have 2 girls. Ms Emo is 16 1/2. She didn't have her first boyfriend until she was 13. It was only an in school type thing. The only thing they did once was go to a highschool football game. She met him and his friends there with her friend never. Otherwise they didn't do anything or never went anywhere. They didn't even talk on the phone. She never kissed him either. Up until that point she wasn't even interested in boys. Even then it truly wasn't a true "boyfriend" or "boy" interest, more of the "thing" to do. She didn't have another boyfriend again until she was a freshman in highschool. She still didn't experience her first kiss until 16! She was way behind the times as far as all things socially because prior to everything she had to handle her reputation that preceeded her from elementary school which caused kids to fear her. Basically it was because during those years we were getting a handle on all her issues and diagnosis'.</p><p></p><p>Ms Queen is only 11. She is and always has been boy crazy and has issues (some of which are yet diagnosed/undiscovered cause) that create inappropriate behaviors since she was extremely young, like 4/5 years old. She'd go around hugging and kissing on boys (and even little girls). She tends to notice body parts that should just be part of the body as a whole, not individually. She is not lacking for socialness. Prior to our move to NC she had a very large base of friends as well. Now she is basically shunned due to behaviors that have changed for the worse/negatively. She has to be monitored closely due to all of this as she wants so badly to have a boyfriend and really likes boys.</p><p></p><p>I will not be allowing her to have a boyfriend anytime soon, unlike my older one. The older one was way more mature and really lacked the social development that would have lead to the need to truly worry about anything. She actually "needed" to grow maturity as far as social and relationships. The younger one needs constraints. If I allowed her more reins I could very easily have a pregnant teenager at any time (I kid you not!). Although younger one has not begun her menses yet, she has displayed PMS symptoms for 1 1/2 years on a monthly basis. by the way older one did not start her menses until just before 14.</p><p></p><p>Two completely different policies because they are two different make ups with different issues and developments as well. For the older I allow her at her age to go 1 on 1 and with groups. She still feels awkward at times with the 1 on 1's. For the younger, she will have to do groups I fear for a very long time unless things suddenly change and even dating won't happen until she is minimumally age 15 perhaps 16 (again unless something drastic changes or we learn more about what's going on with her).</p><p></p><p>I also have a son, which I know is a horse of a different color but to throw it out there. If he stays as he is now, he is socially aware, mature and intelligent. I will allow him to date at 13 in groups. At 15 1 on 1 to something like the movies. You have to realize that at 16 down here they can have a license so that opens the ability to drive themselves to the movies too.</p><p></p><p>That's my 2 cents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 169623, member: 455"] I'm a little late on this thread but here's my take. I have 2 girls. Ms Emo is 16 1/2. She didn't have her first boyfriend until she was 13. It was only an in school type thing. The only thing they did once was go to a highschool football game. She met him and his friends there with her friend never. Otherwise they didn't do anything or never went anywhere. They didn't even talk on the phone. She never kissed him either. Up until that point she wasn't even interested in boys. Even then it truly wasn't a true "boyfriend" or "boy" interest, more of the "thing" to do. She didn't have another boyfriend again until she was a freshman in highschool. She still didn't experience her first kiss until 16! She was way behind the times as far as all things socially because prior to everything she had to handle her reputation that preceeded her from elementary school which caused kids to fear her. Basically it was because during those years we were getting a handle on all her issues and diagnosis'. Ms Queen is only 11. She is and always has been boy crazy and has issues (some of which are yet diagnosed/undiscovered cause) that create inappropriate behaviors since she was extremely young, like 4/5 years old. She'd go around hugging and kissing on boys (and even little girls). She tends to notice body parts that should just be part of the body as a whole, not individually. She is not lacking for socialness. Prior to our move to NC she had a very large base of friends as well. Now she is basically shunned due to behaviors that have changed for the worse/negatively. She has to be monitored closely due to all of this as she wants so badly to have a boyfriend and really likes boys. I will not be allowing her to have a boyfriend anytime soon, unlike my older one. The older one was way more mature and really lacked the social development that would have lead to the need to truly worry about anything. She actually "needed" to grow maturity as far as social and relationships. The younger one needs constraints. If I allowed her more reins I could very easily have a pregnant teenager at any time (I kid you not!). Although younger one has not begun her menses yet, she has displayed PMS symptoms for 1 1/2 years on a monthly basis. by the way older one did not start her menses until just before 14. Two completely different policies because they are two different make ups with different issues and developments as well. For the older I allow her at her age to go 1 on 1 and with groups. She still feels awkward at times with the 1 on 1's. For the younger, she will have to do groups I fear for a very long time unless things suddenly change and even dating won't happen until she is minimumally age 15 perhaps 16 (again unless something drastic changes or we learn more about what's going on with her). I also have a son, which I know is a horse of a different color but to throw it out there. If he stays as he is now, he is socially aware, mature and intelligent. I will allow him to date at 13 in groups. At 15 1 on 1 to something like the movies. You have to realize that at 16 down here they can have a license so that opens the ability to drive themselves to the movies too. That's my 2 cents. [/QUOTE]
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