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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 513065" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I'm going to pursue moving. I can be 1 mile from where I am now and be in a different jurisdiction. The contract got extended and my job is currently secure. However, I'm still looking for a more permanent type employment. I had a phone interview earlier this week and it sounded promising but still "iffy". There is a loophole in my lease that I had the landlord include so I think I can get out of it. If not, I'll just have to be a couple of mos extra rent but that's cheaper than an attny to take on Department of Juvenile Justice and still be left with this PO.</p><p></p><p>DDD- I understand what you're saying but as always, you have an undying faith that people in the system are well-intentioned, and that's not crriticism because it shows your faith in people and positive outlook. I, on the other hand, have suffered too many consequences for trying to hang in there with a PO in the past after being told by 2 attnys and 1 policeman that the PO was doing everything she could to find a way to violate both me and difficult child. Further, difficult child's own def attny told me if I filed any type of complaint about that first GAL, that GAL wouldn't stop until I lost custody of difficult child. This PO/his super are setting us up and I fear it's to find a way to get to court and "prove" difficult child should go to a group home or half way house but they are going to wait until the end of this 90 days, which maxes out difficult child's sentence. Maybe it's that different from state to state but as I mentioned before, we are 2 for 2 and some of them really will tthrow your kid under the bus in a sec. difficult child would never have been committed to Department of Juvenile Justice the first time if we'd had a different PO and GAL. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would never feel trust in this PO or his super.</p><p></p><p>The way this parole plan was written, it wasn't stated to comply with counselor, it was that these goals PO wrote have to be achieved - it doesn't say how, how often etc. That means if the counseling doesn't work, even if difficult child and I comply and he hasn't broken a law or curfew, etc, he or we could still be violated. Oh-- and who determines if it works? PO Now, keep in mind this is the person claiming the group home could have difficult child released in 30 days when in reality, it was a long term post-d program. There's just too much that is snakey about this guy and his super. He's like the wolf in sheep's clothing. The form itself has a column where it says to state "how often, how, etc) and he still just put in what the goals were that he should have been putting someplace else. So we are left with nothing but jump when he says jump and 'maybe' he won't violate us. BS. That's what drove the stress level up to crisis mode before difficult child went off the deep end and I lost everything.</p><p></p><p>And, the day pass he said he'd request....no answer. I emailed and asked about it this morning. Still no answer. So my comment about him sound nice- yes, the email did sound nice. But he;'s not following thru with anything he says he will- like even answering a question.</p><p></p><p>On a brighter note, I rec'd a certificate of excxellence for difficult child from the school at the Department of Juvenile Justice facility. That should make him proud. I think I might frame it for him to hang in his br.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 513065, member: 3699"] I'm going to pursue moving. I can be 1 mile from where I am now and be in a different jurisdiction. The contract got extended and my job is currently secure. However, I'm still looking for a more permanent type employment. I had a phone interview earlier this week and it sounded promising but still "iffy". There is a loophole in my lease that I had the landlord include so I think I can get out of it. If not, I'll just have to be a couple of mos extra rent but that's cheaper than an attny to take on Department of Juvenile Justice and still be left with this PO. DDD- I understand what you're saying but as always, you have an undying faith that people in the system are well-intentioned, and that's not crriticism because it shows your faith in people and positive outlook. I, on the other hand, have suffered too many consequences for trying to hang in there with a PO in the past after being told by 2 attnys and 1 policeman that the PO was doing everything she could to find a way to violate both me and difficult child. Further, difficult child's own def attny told me if I filed any type of complaint about that first GAL, that GAL wouldn't stop until I lost custody of difficult child. This PO/his super are setting us up and I fear it's to find a way to get to court and "prove" difficult child should go to a group home or half way house but they are going to wait until the end of this 90 days, which maxes out difficult child's sentence. Maybe it's that different from state to state but as I mentioned before, we are 2 for 2 and some of them really will tthrow your kid under the bus in a sec. difficult child would never have been committed to Department of Juvenile Justice the first time if we'd had a different PO and GAL. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would never feel trust in this PO or his super. The way this parole plan was written, it wasn't stated to comply with counselor, it was that these goals PO wrote have to be achieved - it doesn't say how, how often etc. That means if the counseling doesn't work, even if difficult child and I comply and he hasn't broken a law or curfew, etc, he or we could still be violated. Oh-- and who determines if it works? PO Now, keep in mind this is the person claiming the group home could have difficult child released in 30 days when in reality, it was a long term post-d program. There's just too much that is snakey about this guy and his super. He's like the wolf in sheep's clothing. The form itself has a column where it says to state "how often, how, etc) and he still just put in what the goals were that he should have been putting someplace else. So we are left with nothing but jump when he says jump and 'maybe' he won't violate us. BS. That's what drove the stress level up to crisis mode before difficult child went off the deep end and I lost everything. And, the day pass he said he'd request....no answer. I emailed and asked about it this morning. Still no answer. So my comment about him sound nice- yes, the email did sound nice. But he;'s not following thru with anything he says he will- like even answering a question. On a brighter note, I rec'd a certificate of excxellence for difficult child from the school at the Department of Juvenile Justice facility. That should make him proud. I think I might frame it for him to hang in his br. [/QUOTE]
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