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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 513088" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>You snuck in me, DDD! After a few phone tags, I talked with the lady from these new services on the phone this afternoon. We have a mtg for Monday morning and PO will there. It will be at the detention center and the lady said it was to review their type of services and to answer my questions and then it was up to me whether or not to choose their services. In reality, it will be presented as either I sign the papers or I'm being uncooperative and difficult child will never step-down. I'mnot too worried about it- they are more qualified than reentry lady. This coordinator is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and the counselor would be a male who is working toward being a licensed professional counselor, but he is not currently licensed. That's a step up from a coordinator and 'counselor' who has a 4 year human services degree but no formal counsling experience, much less a license. But, I'll just have to go thru the mtg, ask questions, take paperwork and tell them I'll respond soon after thinking about it. I'm not signing squat until I'm sure I can move or not move. I know it might put difficult child on hold for a month to move, but that's a far cry better than being stuck with this PO for a year or more. Just like with that probation officer, he wouldn't say when difficult child would ever get off parole either and they can keep them on it until the kid is 21 if they want. I'd prefer being in limbo for a mo and ending up with a chance of success over this any day.</p><p></p><p>See, this is the way PO works and it might sound paranoid but I've seen him do this 2-3 times now. He acts like it's not up to him when I ask questions and he can't answer them- no matter what it is- and acts all nice and friendly when it's just the 2 of us, usually, but not always. Then, he always wants a mtg and has led me to think it's to answer my questions (remeber the first one in Oct?), and in the meantime, he has gone to all other parties and say I'm not cooperating and he needs a unified front. Then, I get lamblasted at the mtg for not going along with what he wanted. But he never gives the measurable goals and has always had it presented to me that it was for the purpose of reviewing my concerns, stauts, etc. So round and round we go. I swear, some of these people I've run across in the system are more dysfunctional than the families. </p><p></p><p>I can read between the lines and figure out that since other kids who've been put on reentry are getting day passes within 2-3 weeks, PO told me he'd request one then had a conversation with this lady at Department of Juvenile Justice about him thinking difficult child should have an adjustment period and we start services and get further along with that first but he needs a unified front to get me to understand that. This is how he works.</p><p></p><p>I was ticked this morning and fed up with it all so I forwarded the whole string of those emails and attachments of the parole plan to Department of Juvenile Justice director and 2 other higher ups in Department of Juvenile Justice and 2 people on the board of juvenile justice and asked them if they could review this and tell me who was responsible for telling me the measurable criteria for all of it because the Department of Juvenile Justice facility said it was po, the detention center staff said it was po, po says it's detention center and Department of Juvenile Justice. And we still don't have it. And I asked them to verify if this was their idea of an appropriate parole plan. Then I forwarded a copy of that to fed doj as additional info.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 513088, member: 3699"] You snuck in me, DDD! After a few phone tags, I talked with the lady from these new services on the phone this afternoon. We have a mtg for Monday morning and PO will there. It will be at the detention center and the lady said it was to review their type of services and to answer my questions and then it was up to me whether or not to choose their services. In reality, it will be presented as either I sign the papers or I'm being uncooperative and difficult child will never step-down. I'mnot too worried about it- they are more qualified than reentry lady. This coordinator is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and the counselor would be a male who is working toward being a licensed professional counselor, but he is not currently licensed. That's a step up from a coordinator and 'counselor' who has a 4 year human services degree but no formal counsling experience, much less a license. But, I'll just have to go thru the mtg, ask questions, take paperwork and tell them I'll respond soon after thinking about it. I'm not signing squat until I'm sure I can move or not move. I know it might put difficult child on hold for a month to move, but that's a far cry better than being stuck with this PO for a year or more. Just like with that probation officer, he wouldn't say when difficult child would ever get off parole either and they can keep them on it until the kid is 21 if they want. I'd prefer being in limbo for a mo and ending up with a chance of success over this any day. See, this is the way PO works and it might sound paranoid but I've seen him do this 2-3 times now. He acts like it's not up to him when I ask questions and he can't answer them- no matter what it is- and acts all nice and friendly when it's just the 2 of us, usually, but not always. Then, he always wants a mtg and has led me to think it's to answer my questions (remeber the first one in Oct?), and in the meantime, he has gone to all other parties and say I'm not cooperating and he needs a unified front. Then, I get lamblasted at the mtg for not going along with what he wanted. But he never gives the measurable goals and has always had it presented to me that it was for the purpose of reviewing my concerns, stauts, etc. So round and round we go. I swear, some of these people I've run across in the system are more dysfunctional than the families. I can read between the lines and figure out that since other kids who've been put on reentry are getting day passes within 2-3 weeks, PO told me he'd request one then had a conversation with this lady at Department of Juvenile Justice about him thinking difficult child should have an adjustment period and we start services and get further along with that first but he needs a unified front to get me to understand that. This is how he works. I was ticked this morning and fed up with it all so I forwarded the whole string of those emails and attachments of the parole plan to Department of Juvenile Justice director and 2 other higher ups in Department of Juvenile Justice and 2 people on the board of juvenile justice and asked them if they could review this and tell me who was responsible for telling me the measurable criteria for all of it because the Department of Juvenile Justice facility said it was po, the detention center staff said it was po, po says it's detention center and Department of Juvenile Justice. And we still don't have it. And I asked them to verify if this was their idea of an appropriate parole plan. Then I forwarded a copy of that to fed doj as additional info. [/QUOTE]
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