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<blockquote data-quote="agee" data-source="post: 345197"><p>So -<a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f6/what-do-you-do-when-your-child-raging-32274/" target="_blank"> in this thread</a> I asked how to handle my son's rages so he calms down, etc. and I got lots of good advice about getting him to deal with frustration over time.</p><p>But how to handle this, which is the cause of his current screaming rage?</p><p>He and his brother watched TV/video games, etc. for a while this a.m. and after a certain amt. of time they were told screen time was over. We limit screen time and we give lots of warnings about when it will be over...1 hour...1/2 hour...10 mins, etc. There are usually fits at the end of it but then OFTEN what happened today will happen:</p><p></p><p>difficult child: I hate you blah blah blah (screaming). I WANT to watch TV!</p><p>dad: screen time is over. Remember, we told you an hour ago...1/2 hour...10 mins, etc.</p><p>difficult child: But you said I could watch TV with you for the rest of the day! I get to watch TV with you!</p><p>dad: No I didn't.</p><p>difficult child: YES YOU DID! I hate you! YES YOU DID! Screamy scream scream...</p><p></p><p>So - difficult child had said to his dad earlier today: I want to watch TV with you the rest of the day, and his dad told him no, that wasn't going to happen because difficult child was using his screen time with brother, because dad had some work to do, etc.. But because difficult child said it, it became TRUE in his mind. </p><p>This happens all the time!</p><p>So now we can't just say no and suffer the consequences of disappointing him, we have to fight against this fantasy that he has that just because he wants it, it will be so. And he's always so surprised when we say no a second time and doubly ****** at us because he truly feels like we're going back on our word.</p><p>Does that make sense?</p><p>A</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="agee, post: 345197"] So -[URL="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f6/what-do-you-do-when-your-child-raging-32274/"] in this thread[/URL] I asked how to handle my son's rages so he calms down, etc. and I got lots of good advice about getting him to deal with frustration over time. But how to handle this, which is the cause of his current screaming rage? He and his brother watched TV/video games, etc. for a while this a.m. and after a certain amt. of time they were told screen time was over. We limit screen time and we give lots of warnings about when it will be over...1 hour...1/2 hour...10 mins, etc. There are usually fits at the end of it but then OFTEN what happened today will happen: difficult child: I hate you blah blah blah (screaming). I WANT to watch TV! dad: screen time is over. Remember, we told you an hour ago...1/2 hour...10 mins, etc. difficult child: But you said I could watch TV with you for the rest of the day! I get to watch TV with you! dad: No I didn't. difficult child: YES YOU DID! I hate you! YES YOU DID! Screamy scream scream... So - difficult child had said to his dad earlier today: I want to watch TV with you the rest of the day, and his dad told him no, that wasn't going to happen because difficult child was using his screen time with brother, because dad had some work to do, etc.. But because difficult child said it, it became TRUE in his mind. This happens all the time! So now we can't just say no and suffer the consequences of disappointing him, we have to fight against this fantasy that he has that just because he wants it, it will be so. And he's always so surprised when we say no a second time and doubly ****** at us because he truly feels like we're going back on our word. Does that make sense? A [/QUOTE]
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