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Ok, so...thoughts - difficult child's, dogs, and husband's.
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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 153274"><p>Cats are much lower maintenance and give lots of affection and are very entertaining, too.</p><p></p><p>I'm with Sara, if you get any animal with the expectation that any child, especially a difficult child, is going to be responsible for it, you're just setting yourself - and difficult child - up for failure.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child is 13. We got our dog, Jewel, 2 years ago. I told her that Jewel was going to be her responsibility, but I also knew that it wouldn't last. I take her out 99.9% of the time. I feed her 98% of the time, easy child 1.5% of the time and difficult child only does it when told. Then she throws a fit because Jewel is super finicky and will not eat dry food - we've tried them all. She will only eat canned food which just grosses out difficult child. I'm also the one that plays with her, walks her, brushes her, etc. </p><p></p><p>FWIW, easy child (who is 16) gets up hours before me on weekends. I would get up and he hadn't let Jewel out to potty, nor fed her. Jewel would usually wake me up to go potty. I went round and round with easy child about this - you know, how would you like it if you couldn't just go potty without someone letting you and they weren't letting you - and he finally got better about it. I mean, at 16 how hard is it to let the dog out? No way would I expect a 6 year old to do that. Not without lots of repetition and reinforcement. husband would have taught difficult child a great deal more by going with him to let the dog out and then showed him how to care for the dog than by sitting there yelling at him. I know when someone's yelling at me like that, I tend to dig in my heels, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 153274"] Cats are much lower maintenance and give lots of affection and are very entertaining, too. I'm with Sara, if you get any animal with the expectation that any child, especially a difficult child, is going to be responsible for it, you're just setting yourself - and difficult child - up for failure. My difficult child is 13. We got our dog, Jewel, 2 years ago. I told her that Jewel was going to be her responsibility, but I also knew that it wouldn't last. I take her out 99.9% of the time. I feed her 98% of the time, easy child 1.5% of the time and difficult child only does it when told. Then she throws a fit because Jewel is super finicky and will not eat dry food - we've tried them all. She will only eat canned food which just grosses out difficult child. I'm also the one that plays with her, walks her, brushes her, etc. FWIW, easy child (who is 16) gets up hours before me on weekends. I would get up and he hadn't let Jewel out to potty, nor fed her. Jewel would usually wake me up to go potty. I went round and round with easy child about this - you know, how would you like it if you couldn't just go potty without someone letting you and they weren't letting you - and he finally got better about it. I mean, at 16 how hard is it to let the dog out? No way would I expect a 6 year old to do that. Not without lots of repetition and reinforcement. husband would have taught difficult child a great deal more by going with him to let the dog out and then showed him how to care for the dog than by sitting there yelling at him. I know when someone's yelling at me like that, I tend to dig in my heels, too. [/QUOTE]
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