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Ok, so...thoughts - difficult child's, dogs, and husband's.
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 153348" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I'm a firm believer that unless a child hurts animals, pets are a great thing, especially pets of the furry type. The animal will give unconditional love, forgive anything, listen to the hurts and joys of childhood, be there when school is out and so on. I would never expect a child, especially not a 6 YO be truly responsible for the pet. At that age, their job is play with the critter.</p><p> </p><p>I do understand how much work a puppy is, especially if under 3 months old. Personally, I'd look for a pup between 6 and 9 months old -- still young enough to silly play with your son and not be "nippy" but old enough to have already been housebroken. </p><p> </p><p>Do make sure that the breed you get is compatible with your household -- you don't want a really stubborn dog (like a boxer or bull dog). Irish setters are beautiful but are pretty high maintenance because of their coats plus are very hard to train. Labs are great kid pets but they really don't grow up until they're about 7 or 8. Little dogs are cute but pretty fragile, so probably not a good fit for a little one. Mixed breeds are always a good choice. Strangely, standard poodles are good pets for kids -- they don't shed, are very intelligent and eager to please.</p><p> </p><p>As someone said earlier, no matter what the age of the dog, when they wake up, they have to GO and asking them to hold it is not fair to anyone, especially not the dog.</p><p> </p><p>As to your husband, I'd be telling him to get off his duff and start doing for himself. It is ridiculous that he expects the kids to wait on him -- they're children, not servants. To get into yelling matches with a 6 YO about letting the dog out is downright silly -- open the door, man, and let the pup OUT. You can discuss your son's responsibilities later. Right now, the dog needs you. Sorry, but your husband needs to grow up and if he won't then maybe you need to find a way to kick him the kiester to force him to grow up at least a little.</p><p> </p><p>Personally, I'm on your son's side. If my father had told me to go get him a flashlight and I was occupied doing something else, I think I would have made a snide remark or two and I was one of those kids who would do almost anything my father asked of me. And if my dad would have carried a grudge about it til the next day, I'm not sure what I would have done but something tells me it wouldn't have been pretty once I figured out I was being treated this way because of his bad behavior of the night before.</p><p> </p><p>I wish you luck. It sounds like your husband is causing far more problems than he's solving. Time for a serious discussion?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 153348, member: 3626"] I'm a firm believer that unless a child hurts animals, pets are a great thing, especially pets of the furry type. The animal will give unconditional love, forgive anything, listen to the hurts and joys of childhood, be there when school is out and so on. I would never expect a child, especially not a 6 YO be truly responsible for the pet. At that age, their job is play with the critter. I do understand how much work a puppy is, especially if under 3 months old. Personally, I'd look for a pup between 6 and 9 months old -- still young enough to silly play with your son and not be "nippy" but old enough to have already been housebroken. Do make sure that the breed you get is compatible with your household -- you don't want a really stubborn dog (like a boxer or bull dog). Irish setters are beautiful but are pretty high maintenance because of their coats plus are very hard to train. Labs are great kid pets but they really don't grow up until they're about 7 or 8. Little dogs are cute but pretty fragile, so probably not a good fit for a little one. Mixed breeds are always a good choice. Strangely, standard poodles are good pets for kids -- they don't shed, are very intelligent and eager to please. As someone said earlier, no matter what the age of the dog, when they wake up, they have to GO and asking them to hold it is not fair to anyone, especially not the dog. As to your husband, I'd be telling him to get off his duff and start doing for himself. It is ridiculous that he expects the kids to wait on him -- they're children, not servants. To get into yelling matches with a 6 YO about letting the dog out is downright silly -- open the door, man, and let the pup OUT. You can discuss your son's responsibilities later. Right now, the dog needs you. Sorry, but your husband needs to grow up and if he won't then maybe you need to find a way to kick him the kiester to force him to grow up at least a little. Personally, I'm on your son's side. If my father had told me to go get him a flashlight and I was occupied doing something else, I think I would have made a snide remark or two and I was one of those kids who would do almost anything my father asked of me. And if my dad would have carried a grudge about it til the next day, I'm not sure what I would have done but something tells me it wouldn't have been pretty once I figured out I was being treated this way because of his bad behavior of the night before. I wish you luck. It sounds like your husband is causing far more problems than he's solving. Time for a serious discussion? [/QUOTE]
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