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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 331286" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Wiz has been addicted to electronics for many years. And RPG games like Magic the Gathering and D&D. I saw the beginnings of it way back when he loved dinosaurs. It absolutely IS an addiction. NOTHING was beyond the limits of what he would do to get at these things. Not even kill his sister if he couldn't get them. (NOT a joke as those who were here then remember.)</p><p></p><p>My policy was, is and ALWAYS will be that if there is an addiction you MUST avoid the substance totally. My mother and father ALWAYS felt this was unreasonable because it wasn't alcohol or crack after all. I heard that so many times. When they say it about a four year old there is something seriously wrong going on, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>When he moved to the gparents he got tv before homework after school, at LEAST one day a week devoted to gaming primarily, and they used the games like carrots. On the surface this all seemed okay. He got less violent. But he still lied cheated stole whatever to get more. </p><p></p><p>About a year ago my mom walked into his room one day and it hit her. The boy has spent probably ten thousand dollars on D&D and Magic and Manga. There is no end. Many of the D&D things are now public domain if you want to print them. He spent weeks of time over 3 years at the college library where printing is free. He sometimes came home with 3-4 reams of paper worth of copies. </p><p></p><p>She never bothered to think about working on abstinence. We have serious addiction genes from both sides of my family and both sides of husband's family. My mother is still delusional enough to think he will be able to handle alcohol if he tries it. HE is terrified of drugs and alcohol because of his medications. When he first started on medications he had some really BAD things happen with my brother. At the same time I stopped hiding bro's alcoholism and the similarities between him and Wiz from Wiz. I spoke openly and graphically (in an age approp way) about what drugs/alcohol could do with his medications. </p><p></p><p>He cannot stand my bro. Is not rude, but has no time for him. Too much abuse to be moved past. The ONE good thing is that this motivates him to stay away from alcohol and drugs. On his own he decided this. </p><p></p><p>He is incapable of moderating the gaming at this point. There are some external controls, mostly financial, that are the only thing that moderates it. Well, and one friend, A, who is his BFF and an amazing positive influence. MAYBE he could have stayed here if we had been more willing to use the electronics and games like carrots instead of treating them like the addiction they are.</p><p></p><p>Gma still is able to delude herself for long periods of time that he can moderate this stuff. I am sure it is easier for her that way. I don't bring it up. Ever. I don't back down on the rare occasions SHE brings it up, though mostly I bobblehead her. </p><p></p><p>You need to attend some alanon meetings. It truly IS an addiction. Young kids CAN be addicted. Then talk openly about this with husband and a therapist to figure out what course of action you want to take. Chances are it will be many years before you will get difficult child to see the problem. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 331286, member: 1233"] Wiz has been addicted to electronics for many years. And RPG games like Magic the Gathering and D&D. I saw the beginnings of it way back when he loved dinosaurs. It absolutely IS an addiction. NOTHING was beyond the limits of what he would do to get at these things. Not even kill his sister if he couldn't get them. (NOT a joke as those who were here then remember.) My policy was, is and ALWAYS will be that if there is an addiction you MUST avoid the substance totally. My mother and father ALWAYS felt this was unreasonable because it wasn't alcohol or crack after all. I heard that so many times. When they say it about a four year old there is something seriously wrong going on, in my opinion. When he moved to the gparents he got tv before homework after school, at LEAST one day a week devoted to gaming primarily, and they used the games like carrots. On the surface this all seemed okay. He got less violent. But he still lied cheated stole whatever to get more. About a year ago my mom walked into his room one day and it hit her. The boy has spent probably ten thousand dollars on D&D and Magic and Manga. There is no end. Many of the D&D things are now public domain if you want to print them. He spent weeks of time over 3 years at the college library where printing is free. He sometimes came home with 3-4 reams of paper worth of copies. She never bothered to think about working on abstinence. We have serious addiction genes from both sides of my family and both sides of husband's family. My mother is still delusional enough to think he will be able to handle alcohol if he tries it. HE is terrified of drugs and alcohol because of his medications. When he first started on medications he had some really BAD things happen with my brother. At the same time I stopped hiding bro's alcoholism and the similarities between him and Wiz from Wiz. I spoke openly and graphically (in an age approp way) about what drugs/alcohol could do with his medications. He cannot stand my bro. Is not rude, but has no time for him. Too much abuse to be moved past. The ONE good thing is that this motivates him to stay away from alcohol and drugs. On his own he decided this. He is incapable of moderating the gaming at this point. There are some external controls, mostly financial, that are the only thing that moderates it. Well, and one friend, A, who is his BFF and an amazing positive influence. MAYBE he could have stayed here if we had been more willing to use the electronics and games like carrots instead of treating them like the addiction they are. Gma still is able to delude herself for long periods of time that he can moderate this stuff. I am sure it is easier for her that way. I don't bring it up. Ever. I don't back down on the rare occasions SHE brings it up, though mostly I bobblehead her. You need to attend some alanon meetings. It truly IS an addiction. Young kids CAN be addicted. Then talk openly about this with husband and a therapist to figure out what course of action you want to take. Chances are it will be many years before you will get difficult child to see the problem. I am sorry. [/QUOTE]
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