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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 194580" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Steely, You CAN DO THIS! The facility will not let anything physical go wrong. They are trying to teach Matt that he must take responsibility for his actions. He is able to do things that he does not want to do or think is too hard to do. They know how far they can push him. They know what his challenges are.</p><p> </p><p>You have a strong and special bond with Matt. That is good for you but at this time, Matt has learned to use that bond to avoid responsibilities. He needs to find away to be an individual and still have that bond of closeness with you. Most kids cut their links to their parents as a way of declaring independence - they usually refind the bond when they are on their own. A few can keep that bond and still grow independent - Matt needs to figure that out - How can he grow up and still have that awesome loving bond with mom?</p><p> </p><p>I think he is so closely linked to your love for him that he is waiting for you to "rescue" him. He needs to learn that it is far healthier for him that he handle his own life now.</p><p> </p><p>Growing up is so hard!</p><p> </p><p>Would that facility have parent counceling - are you able to talk to staff who can help you through this? They should be encouraging you when they have negative reports. They may have a timeline by now that they think will be needed "This is common - we see a turn around in most cases _________ and in the extreme cases, that Matt seems to fit, it can take up to _______________"</p><p> </p><p>Sending hugs to both you and Matt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 194580, member: 5096"] Steely, You CAN DO THIS! The facility will not let anything physical go wrong. They are trying to teach Matt that he must take responsibility for his actions. He is able to do things that he does not want to do or think is too hard to do. They know how far they can push him. They know what his challenges are. You have a strong and special bond with Matt. That is good for you but at this time, Matt has learned to use that bond to avoid responsibilities. He needs to find away to be an individual and still have that bond of closeness with you. Most kids cut their links to their parents as a way of declaring independence - they usually refind the bond when they are on their own. A few can keep that bond and still grow independent - Matt needs to figure that out - How can he grow up and still have that awesome loving bond with mom? I think he is so closely linked to your love for him that he is waiting for you to "rescue" him. He needs to learn that it is far healthier for him that he handle his own life now. Growing up is so hard! Would that facility have parent counceling - are you able to talk to staff who can help you through this? They should be encouraging you when they have negative reports. They may have a timeline by now that they think will be needed "This is common - we see a turn around in most cases _________ and in the extreme cases, that Matt seems to fit, it can take up to _______________" Sending hugs to both you and Matt. [/QUOTE]
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