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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 194612" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Steely, my daughter was in the mountains. She had the joy of moving rocks from one pile to another over and over and over. My beautiful, fragile was doing hard, manual labor! Labor that they had convicts do in the '20s but was declared cruel and unusual punishment! Did I want to rescue her? You better believe I did. BUT I DIDN'T. Not because I didn't love her but because I did. </p><p> </p><p>She needed to succeed. She needed to see that there were consequences for her behavior. I sent her to her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because she was out of control, violent, stealing, running away. Matt is violent -- far more violent and dangerous than my daughter was. </p><p> </p><p>You did your research. You thought this was a good fit for Matt. Let them work their magic as long as they can. Work on finding a way to allow him to stay there or to move him to another facility. Do not rescue him. Do not try to save him from his consequences. He needs to learn that you won't do that. He needs to know you will be there for him for support, to say the soothing words but not to save him from himself. He needs to learn how to do that himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 194612, member: 3626"] Steely, my daughter was in the mountains. She had the joy of moving rocks from one pile to another over and over and over. My beautiful, fragile was doing hard, manual labor! Labor that they had convicts do in the '20s but was declared cruel and unusual punishment! Did I want to rescue her? You better believe I did. BUT I DIDN'T. Not because I didn't love her but because I did. She needed to succeed. She needed to see that there were consequences for her behavior. I sent her to her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because she was out of control, violent, stealing, running away. Matt is violent -- far more violent and dangerous than my daughter was. You did your research. You thought this was a good fit for Matt. Let them work their magic as long as they can. Work on finding a way to allow him to stay there or to move him to another facility. Do not rescue him. Do not try to save him from his consequences. He needs to learn that you won't do that. He needs to know you will be there for him for support, to say the soothing words but not to save him from himself. He needs to learn how to do that himself. [/QUOTE]
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