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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 145182" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I also was thinking, this was over-reacting. But I have to accept that there could be cultural differences here. So often I've heard kids scream at one another, "I'm going to kill you!" and it gets totally ignored because it's just venting. Not pleasant, but certainly not intended to be taken literally or seriously.</p><p></p><p>But then, things are different here. We've only very recently (in the last week) had a school in lockdown because of kids with weapons attacking the school looking for another kid. Again, cultural - the culprits are gangs of recent migrants who have brought some bad habits with them and the authorities are cracking down, hard. </p><p></p><p>Because it's such a rare thing for us, kids here perhaps feel freer to vent without being jumped on. </p><p></p><p>But any chance the kid means it - they're getting interrogated so fat their heads are spinning.</p><p></p><p>A kid needs to vent. He also needs to learn that certain things such as threats are not appropriate. "Rewarding" a threat with time off school isn't helpful, I feel. Making the kid apologise is a much better way to teach the lesson; it's the last thing an angry kid wants to do, to apologise to someone they've recently been screaming threats at. it's humiliating, it's loss of face, it's the opposite of what they wanted to achieve. It's a harsher and more appropriate punishment, I feel.</p><p></p><p>And another thing needs to be considered (for future reference) - why was the kid so angry that he made the threat? How better can the child be taught to cope?</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed by this - when other people involved react with *shock, horror* it's hard to know what to do, hard to fathom your darling being so feral. And certainly hard to know the best way out of the situation.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'll shut up now, this could be too alien for me to understand.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 145182, member: 1991"] I also was thinking, this was over-reacting. But I have to accept that there could be cultural differences here. So often I've heard kids scream at one another, "I'm going to kill you!" and it gets totally ignored because it's just venting. Not pleasant, but certainly not intended to be taken literally or seriously. But then, things are different here. We've only very recently (in the last week) had a school in lockdown because of kids with weapons attacking the school looking for another kid. Again, cultural - the culprits are gangs of recent migrants who have brought some bad habits with them and the authorities are cracking down, hard. Because it's such a rare thing for us, kids here perhaps feel freer to vent without being jumped on. But any chance the kid means it - they're getting interrogated so fat their heads are spinning. A kid needs to vent. He also needs to learn that certain things such as threats are not appropriate. "Rewarding" a threat with time off school isn't helpful, I feel. Making the kid apologise is a much better way to teach the lesson; it's the last thing an angry kid wants to do, to apologise to someone they've recently been screaming threats at. it's humiliating, it's loss of face, it's the opposite of what they wanted to achieve. It's a harsher and more appropriate punishment, I feel. And another thing needs to be considered (for future reference) - why was the kid so angry that he made the threat? How better can the child be taught to cope? I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed by this - when other people involved react with *shock, horror* it's hard to know what to do, hard to fathom your darling being so feral. And certainly hard to know the best way out of the situation. Anyway, I'll shut up now, this could be too alien for me to understand. Marg [/QUOTE]
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