eekysign
New Member
I was thinking something along these lines, too. Guy who states he "never wants kids", and he ends up with a kid? If he's got half the issues he seems to have, that alone might be enough to stop all sex. I mean, obviously you guys were playing it safe BEFORE difficult child came along, since he didn't want kids. So he deals poorly with the accidental pregnancy.....then probably fears it happening again, so he backs away from intimacy. Or he blames you (wrongly, hon, don't beat yourself up!!) for the pregnancy happening at all. Etc, etc. As time goes by, it's a pattern, impossible to change. Longer with-o any kind of intimacy, the harder it is to get it back.
Not saying that's actually what's happening, just that I agree there are other explanations other than "he's an @ss". He could still just be an @ss, he's acting like one!
Doesn't change what you need to do, though. In all cases, protect your heart, yourself, and your children. Cut off his video privileges, if that doesn't work, cut off his phone line. I'm not giving you any advice as to the marriage, 'cause I haven't a clue. But at least do that. And take care of YOU....your husband shouldn't laugh at you. Not about something you feel deeply about. I wish you soo much good luck.
