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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 188935" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Daisy, </p><p> </p><p>The way our kids treat us is somewhere between crazy and hopeful. There was a story years ago about a little girl who walked through the woods in the ice and snow, and came across a snake. She knew snakes were dangerous, but the snake was frozen & shivering and begged her for help. The little girl picked the snake up and stuck it under her coat close to her heart to warm it. Hours later when the snake had warmed up the little girl suffered a lethal bite. Upon being bitten the little girl cried "Why did you bite me? I saved you, I was good to you." and the snake hissed "You KNEW what I wasssss when you picked me up." </p><p> </p><p>And I think about that when I deal with Dude - lately I would rather just not talk about him or hoped he didnt' visit. Its' stressful - yet when he calls I'm SO wanting to just see him/be a part of his life, see how he is I forget - he IS what he ISsssssssssssssss. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry - I don't trust your step kid, and until I actually got verification on a doctors receipt or from a doctor? Nada. She KNOWS those children are you heart. Keep in mind - if this is a manipulation and she's just trying to get in with you and the kids - OF COURSE a brain disorder would be the BIGGEST thing to make you all feel sorry for her, take her back and take in the kids....I see it moving from - I'm dying, I dont' feel well today can you take the kids for a week ......to I'm partying my eskimo pie off and have a good sitter. </p><p> </p><p>My spidey sense has come full circle with a lot of people - and maybe it's that she has worn out her welcome and exhausted her bag of tricks where she is - so in her mind she figures it's been long enough to come back around - "BUT HOW"???? </p><p> </p><p>Tell her you want to do research on her disorder and ask her if you can get permission to talk to her doctors nurse about what is going on so you can get a better idea of what, how, how long, progression etc. </p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry - but after the hurt you all have suffered - I would be SO much more cautious without guilt of making her prove herself and her words. And I'd make NO bones about it - you lied, I dont' believe you and NOW you must prove yourself to me. Even if it's a brain disorder. Because in my mind - if there IS a possibility that she is going to be of diminished capacity ? YOU REALLY ALL NEED TO SEE AN ATTORNEY and iron out her wishes NOW......not when she looses her cognitive abilities - </p><p> </p><p>And for that? You WANT/NEED proof. </p><p> </p><p>I too - like you - want to think that this is a reunion but I SO can see her getting you hooked up with taking care of the kids now and having a miraculous recovery and then you have two sets of wanting eyes, and loving little hands to detach from? Yeah - you're like me it's not gonna happen once you see K & A again? You won't detach - you're hooked and if there IS drama? You're right back in it again......and this time asked for it. </p><p> </p><p>Just be careful......</p><p>Hate to be cynical - but you live longer in peace that way. </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 188935, member: 4964"] Daisy, The way our kids treat us is somewhere between crazy and hopeful. There was a story years ago about a little girl who walked through the woods in the ice and snow, and came across a snake. She knew snakes were dangerous, but the snake was frozen & shivering and begged her for help. The little girl picked the snake up and stuck it under her coat close to her heart to warm it. Hours later when the snake had warmed up the little girl suffered a lethal bite. Upon being bitten the little girl cried "Why did you bite me? I saved you, I was good to you." and the snake hissed "You KNEW what I wasssss when you picked me up." And I think about that when I deal with Dude - lately I would rather just not talk about him or hoped he didnt' visit. Its' stressful - yet when he calls I'm SO wanting to just see him/be a part of his life, see how he is I forget - he IS what he ISsssssssssssssss. I'm sorry - I don't trust your step kid, and until I actually got verification on a doctors receipt or from a doctor? Nada. She KNOWS those children are you heart. Keep in mind - if this is a manipulation and she's just trying to get in with you and the kids - OF COURSE a brain disorder would be the BIGGEST thing to make you all feel sorry for her, take her back and take in the kids....I see it moving from - I'm dying, I dont' feel well today can you take the kids for a week ......to I'm partying my eskimo pie off and have a good sitter. My spidey sense has come full circle with a lot of people - and maybe it's that she has worn out her welcome and exhausted her bag of tricks where she is - so in her mind she figures it's been long enough to come back around - "BUT HOW"???? Tell her you want to do research on her disorder and ask her if you can get permission to talk to her doctors nurse about what is going on so you can get a better idea of what, how, how long, progression etc. I'm so sorry - but after the hurt you all have suffered - I would be SO much more cautious without guilt of making her prove herself and her words. And I'd make NO bones about it - you lied, I dont' believe you and NOW you must prove yourself to me. Even if it's a brain disorder. Because in my mind - if there IS a possibility that she is going to be of diminished capacity ? YOU REALLY ALL NEED TO SEE AN ATTORNEY and iron out her wishes NOW......not when she looses her cognitive abilities - And for that? You WANT/NEED proof. I too - like you - want to think that this is a reunion but I SO can see her getting you hooked up with taking care of the kids now and having a miraculous recovery and then you have two sets of wanting eyes, and loving little hands to detach from? Yeah - you're like me it's not gonna happen once you see K & A again? You won't detach - you're hooked and if there IS drama? You're right back in it again......and this time asked for it. Just be careful...... Hate to be cynical - but you live longer in peace that way. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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