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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 188981" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>MB No, I don't fall for all the so called idolization of me. I don't fall for that sort of flowery praise. Reminds me of "Mommy I love you so much, you're the best Mommy in the world........can I have...." Didn't work when she was a kid, either.</p><p> </p><p>Janet you could be right. And thankfully, I have no money to spare. And most likely wouldn't send it if I did. </p><p> </p><p>Stepgfg has yet to realize what a huge impact what she did had, and not just with her. My kids will tell you I don't loan them money. They all know once they move out that door there is no moving back. Stepgfg is a huge part of that. What she did only greatly re-enforced what my grandmother had taught me.</p><p> </p><p>Stepgfg has always had a huge tendancy to Poor Pity Me syndrome. I know that, knew it when I wrote the first email. She also has a stong inclination to exaggerate, especially if it suits her purpose. I even know I might be dealing with heavy duty mental illness. (bioMom also suspected it)</p><p> </p><p>Borderline. Hmm. I dunno. Possible. </p><p> </p><p>Been doing some heavy duty thinking today. Hellova a way to spend your 25th wedding anniversary. husband and I are talking. He hasn't talked about his daughter since she left. He too, is my rock of skepticism. And since he and stepgfg are nearly carbon copies of each other in personality........I listen to what he thinks and consider it.</p><p> </p><p>I've been burned once. I won't let it happen again.</p><p> </p><p>It's just her request threw me for a loop. Last thing in the world I expected. I did only offer help IF she dies. Did not offer help under any other circumstances. MB you're right. Even if it meant me being hurt in the long run, I couldn't do anything else. I have to be the person I am too. And I know I couldn't tolerate the thought of those kids losing their mother, needing family, and not being there for them. I'd never be able to live with myself.</p><p> </p><p>Not counting on emails or anything else from the kids. We'll see what we see. I'm a pessimist at heart. You don't get hurt as much that way.</p><p> </p><p>Your input into this helps so much. Lord knows I don't want to have to take Detachment 101 and 102 over again.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 188981, member: 84"] MB No, I don't fall for all the so called idolization of me. I don't fall for that sort of flowery praise. Reminds me of "Mommy I love you so much, you're the best Mommy in the world........can I have...." Didn't work when she was a kid, either. Janet you could be right. And thankfully, I have no money to spare. And most likely wouldn't send it if I did. Stepgfg has yet to realize what a huge impact what she did had, and not just with her. My kids will tell you I don't loan them money. They all know once they move out that door there is no moving back. Stepgfg is a huge part of that. What she did only greatly re-enforced what my grandmother had taught me. Stepgfg has always had a huge tendancy to Poor Pity Me syndrome. I know that, knew it when I wrote the first email. She also has a stong inclination to exaggerate, especially if it suits her purpose. I even know I might be dealing with heavy duty mental illness. (bioMom also suspected it) Borderline. Hmm. I dunno. Possible. Been doing some heavy duty thinking today. Hellova a way to spend your 25th wedding anniversary. husband and I are talking. He hasn't talked about his daughter since she left. He too, is my rock of skepticism. And since he and stepgfg are nearly carbon copies of each other in personality........I listen to what he thinks and consider it. I've been burned once. I won't let it happen again. It's just her request threw me for a loop. Last thing in the world I expected. I did only offer help IF she dies. Did not offer help under any other circumstances. MB you're right. Even if it meant me being hurt in the long run, I couldn't do anything else. I have to be the person I am too. And I know I couldn't tolerate the thought of those kids losing their mother, needing family, and not being there for them. I'd never be able to live with myself. Not counting on emails or anything else from the kids. We'll see what we see. I'm a pessimist at heart. You don't get hurt as much that way. Your input into this helps so much. Lord knows I don't want to have to take Detachment 101 and 102 over again.:knockedout: [/QUOTE]
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