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OMG - things are bad - and apparently I am the one to blame
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 321181" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>No. I'm suggesting you let them treat him and that you clear things like privileges with them before you tell him what you think is going on.</p><p></p><p> </p><p>No. Please don't twist my words. He needs help, and you need to either let them help him and stop trying to be an active part of the treatment, or let them release him. They have told you that you can't have it both ways. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>You said "Why would the program not see how willing I am to make things happen for Matt?" You don't seriously think that you can make anything happen for him mental health-wise, do you? </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>The same reason we put our son in a program. Where he got the staff turned into thinking it was all our fault for trying to micromanage his life and maybe <em>they </em>would have clocked husband too given what terrible parents we were. They told us we interfered with their treatment program and refused to involve us. Except our M was only 16. Sound familiar?</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Nobody said you wanted a perfect kid, and quite honestly, I don't appreciate that you are putting words into my mouth. Every word I said makes sense.</p><p> </p><p>Bottom line. They want your support and trust or they are going to kick him out of the program. Do you want him there or not? This <em>is</em> about your choice.</p><p> </p><p>This is the best advice I have to give. And it matches exactly the advice Star gave. It's just not as eloquent as Star's. I'm not going to be the bad guy here because I didn't take an hour and a half to make it eloquent the way Star does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 321181, member: 99"] No. I'm suggesting you let them treat him and that you clear things like privileges with them before you tell him what you think is going on. No. Please don't twist my words. He needs help, and you need to either let them help him and stop trying to be an active part of the treatment, or let them release him. They have told you that you can't have it both ways. You said "Why would the program not see how willing I am to make things happen for Matt?" You don't seriously think that you can make anything happen for him mental health-wise, do you? The same reason we put our son in a program. Where he got the staff turned into thinking it was all our fault for trying to micromanage his life and maybe [I]they [/I]would have clocked husband too given what terrible parents we were. They told us we interfered with their treatment program and refused to involve us. Except our M was only 16. Sound familiar? Nobody said you wanted a perfect kid, and quite honestly, I don't appreciate that you are putting words into my mouth. Every word I said makes sense. Bottom line. They want your support and trust or they are going to kick him out of the program. Do you want him there or not? This [I]is[/I] about your choice. This is the best advice I have to give. And it matches exactly the advice Star gave. It's just not as eloquent as Star's. I'm not going to be the bad guy here because I didn't take an hour and a half to make it eloquent the way Star does. [/QUOTE]
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