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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 458068" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Oh, he might be mad at you for a while. I mean, you are afterall, making him grow up. But for a lifetime simply because you told him it was time to go out and live his own life? Probably not. </p><p></p><p>Some kids are super excited and totally gung ho to enter into adulthood and the responsibilities that go with it. Some want to enjoy the "freedom" without the responsibility......sometimes because they're just lazy, sometimes because the adult world scares them.</p><p></p><p>Nichole lived at home until she was about 20-21. She had Aubrey right before her 17th birthday. Now she was fine at home, no issues there. But one day she said something about hanging around probably until she was like 35 or so because she had no reason to leave...........and it wasn't long before I handed her a move out date. 1. because it snapped me to attention that while her being at home wasn't an issue I was also neglecting to push her out of the nest for her to become a full fledged adult. and 2. because I was entering nursing school and I didn't need a toddler distracting me from studying. </p><p></p><p>She was hurt at first, thinking I was throwing her out when she didn't do anything wrong. Until I explained to her that she'd learned all the tools to be a well functioning adult and it was time for her to take that leap. </p><p></p><p>Hers was a fear of the adult responsibility without mom around to back her up. (although mom is still around to back her up lol) She had all the tools she needed. Actually I didn't do anything for her except provide room and board. And still making that leap scared her to death. Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>Did I worry about her? Oh yeah. That's pretty normal. But I knew she'd be ok and she could always come and ask me questions ect.</p><p></p><p>In a way, it's showing them that you have faith in their abilities even if they don't. You've spent his lifetime teaching him what he needs to be a functioning adult. It's time for him to leave the nest and make his own way. Will he live his life exactly how you'd like him to? Probably not. He's his own person with his own choices and mistakes to make, just as we did when we were young. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 458068, member: 84"] Oh, he might be mad at you for a while. I mean, you are afterall, making him grow up. But for a lifetime simply because you told him it was time to go out and live his own life? Probably not. Some kids are super excited and totally gung ho to enter into adulthood and the responsibilities that go with it. Some want to enjoy the "freedom" without the responsibility......sometimes because they're just lazy, sometimes because the adult world scares them. Nichole lived at home until she was about 20-21. She had Aubrey right before her 17th birthday. Now she was fine at home, no issues there. But one day she said something about hanging around probably until she was like 35 or so because she had no reason to leave...........and it wasn't long before I handed her a move out date. 1. because it snapped me to attention that while her being at home wasn't an issue I was also neglecting to push her out of the nest for her to become a full fledged adult. and 2. because I was entering nursing school and I didn't need a toddler distracting me from studying. She was hurt at first, thinking I was throwing her out when she didn't do anything wrong. Until I explained to her that she'd learned all the tools to be a well functioning adult and it was time for her to take that leap. Hers was a fear of the adult responsibility without mom around to back her up. (although mom is still around to back her up lol) She had all the tools she needed. Actually I didn't do anything for her except provide room and board. And still making that leap scared her to death. Know what I mean?? Did I worry about her? Oh yeah. That's pretty normal. But I knew she'd be ok and she could always come and ask me questions ect. In a way, it's showing them that you have faith in their abilities even if they don't. You've spent his lifetime teaching him what he needs to be a functioning adult. It's time for him to leave the nest and make his own way. Will he live his life exactly how you'd like him to? Probably not. He's his own person with his own choices and mistakes to make, just as we did when we were young. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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