An illuminating conversation with the lady who looks after J occasionally. J went to her tonight as I have my meditation group and she told me that she had recently been visited by two ladies who were "inspecting" her as a childminder. They asked her many questions about J, apparently. She said that he was possibly ADHD and that I had asked her not to punish him because it did not work with him and was actually counter-productive. Amazingly (to me), these two specialists in child care told her that she was not fulfilling her role correctly, that her job was to punish a child so that he could be educated properly for the future. Yikes! NO understanding of different children and how to handle them, NO understanding that the contract is between the parent and the childminder. And this unquestioning belief that punishing a child is an effective means of teaching her/him the difference between right and wrong, etc. This couldn't happen in Britain, i don't think.